- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
What is your take on men who are OVERLY emotional. Is that attractive or repulsive?
I have someone in my family (not my FI), who is 23 years old male. He has had a reasonably decent life. Was overweight for the most part but not so much that he can’t move around or hinder daily life activities. He has basically gone through all the same issues that most people go through. I.e. Making fun of in school, not having a gf for the longest time (but is on the 3rd relationship now and this one seems to be quite serious), being overweight, scared for the future after graduating from college and thinking they won’t get a job, etc.
The thing is, this guy, even if you say something to him like “You are not good at [insert any activity here]”, then he will actually run to his room and start CRYING!!!! It supposedly reminds him of how he sucks at everything else too and has sucked pretty much his whole life. And this is exactly the words someone would say to him, which would result in him crying. No one is swearing, or constantly belittling him. His family is actually very encouraging to him and his future, and have a positive attitude towards him and each other. Plus the guy also has a huge social circle. Though they don’t talk about their emotions.
I can understand that this person would feel hurt if their family members say that they are not good at such n’ such. But just that sentence shouldn’t hurt you to the point of tears.
I personally feel that this needs to be addressed and he needs to grow a backbone. And stand up for himself regardless of it is against a family member whom he feels dearly for, or against a total stranger. Others think that he will ‘grow out of it’. (Well, he’s 23!!!) I wouldn’t think his gf would like to see this side of him. They just started dating a while back. And she seems to be very emotionally strong.
What do you guys think?