(Closed) men who dont invite female friends to their wedding

posted 6 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I don’t totally understand the question, but speaking to the last part of your question I do not think brides should have any more say than the groom.  IMO they should be working on the guest list together and even considering how to compliment eachother’s guests with other guests. 

Like we’re considering who of my friends knows FI’s friends and who won’t know anyone but who they will likely get along with etc.  We want everyone to have a good time.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

The bride and groom should have equal say over the guestlist, because they are both getting married! I know that the average bride cares more about the little details than the average groom, but that doesn’t mean it’s not just as important of an event to him, and that he shouldn’t have equal say over who is there to witness it.

As far as the female friend question…well, why do you ask? Just wondering which side of this issue you’re falling on. Personally, I think if he is marrying the girl and she is still so insecure as to not want his female friends at their wedding…doesn’t say great things for the bride/marriage. Unless the female friend is an ex or has acted innapropriately with him (although in that second scenario I’d have to question why they were still even friends if she has disrespected the bride.) For us it was about how close we were to the friends…we both had some friends who didn’t make the list, and it wasn’t about their gender, it was because we couldn’t invite everyone and had to draw the line somewhere.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’m guessing you’re asking because you weren’t invited to the wedding of a male friend and you think the bride is jealous and won’t let you come.

That answer is probably yes.

As far as my fiance’s female friends, I let him make that choice. There’s a few he’s admitted to fawning over before, and some are completely ‘bros’. Sure, some I don’t want there because of history, but they’re his friends and some of those who have history with him are also fairly good friends of mine. It’s his choice about his friends; I gave him a number he could invite, and he filled it as he pleased.

I would say at the average wedding, the bride has far more say about it than the groom, though. 

Post # 6
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3580 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I wish it was equal but Darling Husband snuck some peeps in at ours. Gr. 

 

Post # 7
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900 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I would say equal. But don’t assume that since you weren’t invited, that it was the bride’s fault. My husband had a female friend that he didn’t invite to our wedding, and they were pretty close. Initially, it was an oversight when we were making the invite lost and collecting addresses. But when I realized she was missing from the list, he said one didn’t have her address and would get back to me. then I forgot and never reminded Him..and in the wedding planning, he forgot.

AFTER we sent the invites, we remembered, but by then he was too embarrassed to ask for the address! S he just didn’t invite her. I thought it was pretty awful, but its his friend, his decision.

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