Post # 1
What are your thoughts on men who don’t wear their wedding bands? I’ve seen this on multiple occassions- at work, when we meet up with friends, etc. I understand that some men have jobs where they work a lot with their hands, and it’s impractical for them to wear a wedding band, but for the others? There was a guy that we met just yesterday who said he was in town on business for the next four months, he is married, but he wasn’t wearing a wedding band. I can’t help but feel a little upset when I see this. Thoughts?
Post # 2
ehhh….I can’t really say much other than IMO I think it’s uncool. I think about when I get married and if fi didn’t want to wear a wedding ring I’d prob be a little hurt. He works with his hands all day, they get super beat up but he’s already said that won’t stop him from wearing one. Plus now they make rings that are safe for almost any situation so there’s not really an excuse.
Post # 3
Neither my husband nor myself wear our wedding bands on a daily basis. Shrug? It’s a lump of metal, not a physical manifestation of our relationship.
Post # 4
I agree with MrsA44:
in that I think it’s uncool. Of course everyone’s opinion is valid, but that’s mine. I would be weirded out if my Fiance and I got married and he had a ring but didn’t wear it.
I know some couples who don’t have rings at all, either of them, and I think that’s very different from couples in which the wife wears her rings but the husband leaves his at home. It’s also different when a husband doesn’t have a ring at all vs. one who just leaves it home.
Post # 5
I don’t care. If a dude’s wife is fine with him not wearing a ring, then it’s fine with me. It’s their business and none of mine.
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman
Everyone is different, I think a lot of men are just so not into jewelry at all that it’s not necessarily a reflection on their relationship. If both partners are okay with it, I don’t think it should concern anyone else. My SO wants to wear one, and that makes me happy but if he didn’t, it wouldn’t make us any less married.
Post # 7
My dad didn’t wear a wedding band for my entire life. I don’t know if he had one for the ceremony purposes but never wore it or what. Honestly, I grew up thinking this was normal, since it was never even talked about. My mom wore her rings, and I guess I just always assumed that it was only something girls did because it was “jewelry.” I cannot possibly be certain about why my dad didn’t wear it, but I assume part of it is because he has relatively big hands and his knuckles are significantly bigger than his fingers, so it might have been an issue of it being big enough to get over the knuckle but then being loose, or being too tight. Who knows.
That being said, I was not comfortable with my DH not wearing one. He doesn’t ever wear jewelry (he wore some puka shell necklaces in high school on rare occassions, but more for style than anything else), he doesn’t have his ears or anything else pierced, and no tattoos. He’s just not really into that. He sort of complained about not wanting to wear one and I said absolutely not. You would think that since I grew up with this as “normal” I wouldn’t care, but I feel like it’s just an invitation for women (and for him, down the road, if we were having a rough patch or something). I told him that it takes much more consciousness to physically take off your ring to cheat (or cheat with it on) than if you’re not wearing one at all. You can just feed into that lie if you’re feeling in the mood to. That’s not to say I think he will cheat on me, or that he even wants to, but I feel like it’s a level of respect to tell the rest of the world, “Hey, I’m taken.”
Post # 8
Yep, us too. Sometimes we wear them, sometimes we leave them at home to protect them, sometimes we just forget. Still married, and happily, so no big deal.
Post # 9
Couldn’t care less. I have real problems to occupy myself with.
Post # 10
We’ve never taken our off, save for a couple of medical procedures, so I don’t really understand leaving that at home. But I know people are different. For instance, I don’t wear a watch and a lot of people think I’m nuts.
Post # 11
Fiance has a job were he cant wear his but he does when he is not working. My dad does as well but I have never seen him wear any piece of jewelry. To each his own!
Post # 12
it was a big deal to me that that if my husband wanted me to wear a wedding ring to show I was married/ off the market, he must also show me that same respect.
my husband has been married before and chose to not wear a ring so I think that was another reason why I was more adamant he wore one in our marriage.
I put a band on his finger the day we married and has worn a ring since. All be it his is on his third one.
for me it is important but that’s my view
Post # 13
If I were to get married, this would be unacceptable (unless he had a job that didn’t make it practical).
Post # 14
IMO…my fiancee freaks out when I dont wear my engagement ring. We did spend a pretty penny (well thousands and thousands of them LOL ) so we have established that I better no catch him without. He has already told me that is very disrepspectful so I know we won’t have that issue. My dad on the other hand, when he was married to my mom, barely wore it since he is a plumber, fishes and hunts, etc. To each their own. 🙂
Post # 15
My husband does not wear jewelry of any kind, so when he told me he couldn’t be more proud to wear a wedding band it made my heart melt. I guess it’s just not some people’s thing? IDK. A wedding band to me is important because it’s a public display that you are married.