(Closed) Men who don't wear their wedding bands

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 46
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I also grew up never having seen (literally) a wedding band on my dad. It always bothered me. He and my mom have been married for 35 years, but he is incredibly unhappy. DH was actually really excited to get and wear his wedding band. He sleeps, showers, works, etc with it on, and it never comes off. I would have a big problem with him not wearing it, and I to tend to side eye guys who I know are married and walk around bare-fingered. I get that guys aren’t used to jewelry, but I also feel like that’s just too damn bad, and they’d get used to it quickly.

Post # 47
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Helper bee

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ohhsnap:  So you’re saying I’m ignorant just because my opinion is different from yours? 

Post # 48
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I don’t get why your bothered by something that has nothing to do with you.

But anyways my dad never wore a wedding band. He met my mum in highschool and they have been very happily married for 40+ years. He doesn’t wear one because he hates jewellery. His dad didnt wear one either and he was happily married to my grandma for 60+ years 

My husband doesn’t wear one either. I actually hadn’t even thought about getting him one since, with my dad and grandad not wearing them, it seemed way more normal for me for him not to have one, and my husband is not a jewellery person whatsoever, he won’t even wear a watch. I asked him just incase and he said that he absolutely would wear one if I wanted him to but I said that I would actually prefer it if he didn’t (I guess im not attracted to jewellery on guys or something). He would be fine if I didn’t want to wear a ring either but I like jewelery so I do.

I dont see a man without a ring and presume that he isn’t married nor did I when I was single

If a guy wants to cheat he will do so whether he is wearing his ring or not. If you were to take of your ring would that instantly turn you into someone who is likely to cheat?

It takes like 5 seconds to take off a ring and I think that if you marry someone you should be able to trust them not to cheat with or without a ring.

 

Post # 49
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

My hubby wears his 24/7 and can barely take it off.  That’s all I care about.  When I was single it use to bother me because I got scum hitting on me that were married who didn’t have a ring line or a ring, but in the end you find out anyway.  No, I don’t care what other people’s husbands do.  

Post # 50
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I do disagree with others who say you are not entitled to your opinion on what bothers you.  That is your prerogative.  I have a lot of opinions that would probably piss off a lot of people, but I don’t give a shit.  Believe what you want to and tell everyone else to piss off.

  • This reply was modified 6 years, 4 months ago by NovaRising.
Post # 51
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

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framarianna:  Nope. I’m saying it’s ignorant to assume that “a man who doesn’t want to wear his wedding band is a man who doesn’t want to show he’s married. It’s as simple as that.” So .. what you’re saying is that every guy ever who opted not to wear a wedding band doesn’t want to show he’s married? So that’s saying my father, who only wears his band for special occasions, doesn’t want to show he’s married 99% of the time? LOL. No. Just no. 

Post # 52
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Sketchy. My opinion.

Post # 53
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

My father has been in Construction his entire life. I have NEVER see him wear his wedding band. Not on special occassions, not when dressed up, not when he isn’t working… NEVER. My mom and him have one of the best relationships I’ve ever witnessed.

My Fiance is also in Construction and constantly working with his hands. Not only is it inconvenient but extremely dangerous to wear a wedding band when working with certain machines (i.e. finger being ripped off). A friend’s dad was working on a something with electrics and it grounded out on his ring… burned his entire hand almost completely off…

Because I grew up with a father who never wore a ring before, it doesn’t bother me in the slightest that my Fiance won’t wear one either. He said he will when we go out or get dressed up, just not when he’s working. I don’t doubt in a few months after being married he’ll stop wearing it altogether. (My only request was he wear it on our honeymoon).

Rings come off… if someone wants to cheat, a wedding band isn’t going to stop them. It’s not a defining factor of someone’s love for the other person.

Post # 54
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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ohhsnap:  THIS. My Fiance won’t be wearing a ring… I doubt people around him won’t know he’s married once they strike up a conversation. My Fiance doesn’t wear a ring now (obviously) and everyone still knows he’s engaged. My comment above: I have never seen my father wear his wedding ring in my life but my parents have the best relationship.

Post # 55
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My DH is a welder so he has heard horror stories about men who keep their ring on while welding and beinbg electrocuted or having their rings melt into their hands…yikes!!! I am in full support of my DH taking his ring off for work, but I gave him a caribeaner clip for his keys that he puts it on when he gets into work and then when he gets his keys out to drive home he puts it on so I actually never see him with it off and he has only forgot to put it on once.

Post # 56
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

My mother and father have been married for over 30 years and my dad stopped wearing his wedding ring a few years in. It has zero effect on their marriage. 

Whether a man is faithful or prone to cheat, honest or dishonest, loyal or disloyal, etc. has no relation to the jewelery he wears.

Post # 57
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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SoccerBee86:  You really think a guy who is already in the mindset that he wants to cheat will stop because “sigh” it just takes too damn long to pull that ring off his finger. Why go through all that trouble? Guess the cheating isn’t worth it after all…

I think if you’re in a relationship where you think  your husband is much more likely to cheat on you because he doesn’t have an object encircling his finger… I’d reevaluate the trust in this relationship

Post # 58
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492 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

My husband barely wears his wedding ring, the only time he wears it is if we go out on our days off or special occasion, not a big deal for me. He’s always lifting stuffs at work etc so I don’t mind if he doesn’t wear his. 

Post # 60
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Bee Keeper

Boxerlover24: If i was that insecure that he couldnt walk out of the house with a giant symbol of his ‘taken status’ , we would have larger problems to deal with lol.

 

Exactly!

IMO Long hair, don’t care. Not wearing one does make a person more loyal than someone who does, so it doesn’t matter. If he has good reason, I fail to see making it a bigger deal than it is. I won’t be one of those wives who always has to wear hers either, so can’t be a hypocrite. 

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