Post # 61
No, I believe that if a guy is out to cheat, he’s going to cheat no matter what. What I meant was a different situation, where the husband is not “out to cheat” but is out with the guys, drinking perhaps, and a woman approaches him, if he’s wearing a ring, he might think twice is all. Not every guy who cheats is “out to cheat” or has that intention before it happens. You think that men never cheat “in the moment”?
Regardless, that’s how I feel about it. I’m not stupid enough to think that my DH would NEVER be in a tempting situation ever in his life, or that our relationship will be SO GREAT for the rest of our lives it wouldn’t ever cross his mind. Whether or not he acts on it is up to him but I think that not wearing his wedding band is only a small step 1. In my opinion. You’re entitled to yours.
Post # 62
My Fiance told me that he is most likely not going to wear his wedding band except for special occasions. He hates how rings feel. Personally igaf if he wears it or not. He wants a ring tattoo instead at some point. That’s fine with me too. I trust him completely if I didn’t I wouldn’t be getting married to him.
Post # 63
There’s not law or standard for wedding rings- depending on culture or location people might wear it on the right hand, or the left hand- depending on a person’s job they might not safely be able to wear a ring at all. I know a girl who got an “engagement car” instead of jewelry. And I’ve known a couple men who were just to lazy to replace their rings when the originals broke (tungsten) or they got too fat for the ring to fit anymore. Not everyone values the symbolism of wedding rings the same, some people just see it as jewelry.
Post # 64
If my husband needs a ring to stop him from cheating, he doesn’t need to be my husband anymore. There were temptations before the ring and I still didn’t expect him to act on it. Even in our bad times (yes, we’ve hit rough patches before) it never occurred to either of us to cheat because our relationship wasn’t perfect at the moment. If your DH is going to give into these sudden tempations when your relationship isn’t “SO GREAT” at the moment, that ring ain’t gonna stop him. Heck, some women get off on sleeping with married men sooo maybe that ring will attract
some women too. Either way, ring on or ring off won’t prevent cheating…I think some women believe a ring has some magical power that will lock the zipper on their husband’s pants….
Post # 65
So people honestly thinking a piece metal, will make their mate think twice about cheating??? LOL. Wow. I’ve read some crazy stuff on the Bee, now adding this to the list.
Post # 66
- Wedding: Victoria Wedding Chapel
My dad never wore a ring. He was in the army and then worked in a factory. It was just never practical. My brother-in-law doesn’t wear his ring for some reason, except for family pictures and stuff. It doesn’t seem to bother my mom or my sister. I’ve told my boyfriend that once we’re married I’d like him to wear a ring every day. It’s important to me, and unless it’s uncomfortable for some reason, I would like to think it’s important to him too.
Also, it’s not about fidelity or showing other people that we’re married. We’re still married with or without the ring. I just like rings. I would like seeing it everyday. I think it’s nice.
Post # 67
I don’t recall in either of my posts saying, “If DH wears a ring it will stop him from cheating on me.” I said it MIGHT make him think twice is all. I want my husband to wear a ring for several reasons, and the second thought is only one of them. To me, it’s a symbol of our union, to others, it’s not a big deal, and that’s fine.
I realize that this isn’t Harry Potter world and a ring doesn’t have magical powers. Never implied it did.
Post # 68
“Heck, some women get off on sleeping with married men sooo maybe that ring will attract some women too.”
This!!!! I love that Fiance can’t wait to wear his ring, but I also know he may get hit on more (or more aggressively by some women). That ring doesn’t affect his behavior, or the behavior of others.
Post # 69
If you chose to partner with a man who needs a piece of metal on his hand to remind him not cheat, well, that’s on you.
My father never wore a wedding ring. I let DH know that he was free to not wear a wedding band if he didn’t want to, as he doesn’t like jewelry (he wanted a ring). If he didn’t want to, it’s not something that would have bothered me. And I sure wouldn’t give one of my precious few fucks about what another couple chooses to do that has zero impact on me.
Post # 70
I would be more bothered if he were wearing a silver ring and tried to pass it off as 18k gold. Now that would be upsetting.
Post # 71
I don’t think it’s weird or upsetting, but maybe it’s because I’ve only ever seen my dad with his on once or twice. He’s very sensitive to metals and his wedding ring makes him swell like a balloon. It was never a big deal to my mom so they never got it replaced. I think at one point he lost it as well. Eh, it happens.
Post # 72
I would prefer to either both not wear rings or both wear rings. I wouldn’t particularly like my Fiance wanting me to wear a ring and proposing with one, and then not wanting to wear one himself. That would make me feel like he was marking his territory or something. Personally, for me, like some other PPs I’d prefer wearing rings as an external signifier of our union if we are going through all of the “hassle” of getting married. It is culturally the norm to do so where I am.
Post # 73
I have never seen my father wear his wedding band. He dislikes jewelry of any kind. He and my mother have been married for 31 years.
Post # 74
To each their own but I want my future husband to wear his once we are married. I feel like it’s a sign of respect. I won’t go without mine unless for some reason it’s not reasonable (Like in a boxing class). I think he wouldn’t be happy if I didn’t wear mine so same here. I feel it’s a sign of commitment. That being said what works for me isn’t for all 🙂
Post # 75
My dad doesn’t wear a band regularly and my fiancé is not planning to wear his band regularly. After my moms 25 year old ring had the diamond fall out she didn’t wear a ring for over 2 years. They said a ring isn’t what makes them love another. As for my dad and fiancé they are both auto mechanics who could lose a finger if their jewelry got caught in a car part. Honestly, as long as the couple is comfortable in their relationship with each other and has a mutual respect for not wearing the ring, I see no problem with it.