(Closed) Men who don't wear their wedding bands

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 76
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Meh I each PP to each their own, It is not your business if a man is wearing his ring or not.  My dad never wears his. He was a mechanic so he couldn’t wear it and in time his ring is to small.  I don’t have an issue with it. And someone else does than piss off it is not your business 

Post # 77
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

My DH wears his. My parents wear theirs as well, so it’s kind of expected in my family. Regarding others, whatever works for them.

Post # 78
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

to each their own. For me personally if he wants me to wear mine he has to wear his 😉 I completely understand not wearing your ring if it’s a hazard. and I totally agree a cheating man will cheat with or without the ring, but personally every time I meet a married man who doesn’t wear a ring, I’ve discovered he’s unfaithful. So for me if hubby wasn’t interested in wearing a public declaration of our commitment it would concern me. However, so many bees here have stories about close men who had great marriages and eschewed bands. So who knows…

Post # 79
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

My husband does metal work everyday and wearing a ring really isn’t safe. I’d rather him have all his fingers than wear a ring.  So he made a ring for our ceremony and he wore it on our wedding day and hasn’t since. Doesn’t bother me. He’s talked about maybe getting a ring tattooed on (and he has no tattoos and hates them so that would be major for him), but I will leave it up to him. 

Post # 80
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482 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: Rocky Mountains-May 2017

I think that unless they work with their hands they should be wearing a ring. My cousin’s husband doesn’t wear his that often because he works with cars. My Fiance doesn’t plan to wear his to work because he’s going for a Park Ranger position and doesn’t wanna bang it around on stuff. 

Post # 81
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Helper bee

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ohhsnap:  Wedding bands to me are not “jewelry”. They are symbols. Their only function is to show the world that you’re married, because obviously you know deep inside whether you’re taken or not. It’s the rest of the world who doesn’t know. (Obviously, there are exceptions, if you work a job or are in a physical condition that prevents you from from wearing your band). So no, I wouldn’t buy the excuse “I don’t like wearing jewelry” from my husband, especially if this was very important to me as a wife. Personally, I don’t see any reasonable reason NOT to wear a visible sign of your marriage, if you’re in a condition that allows you to do so. That’s what wedding bands are for. But luckily, I don’t have this problem bc my hubby shares my opinion. And yes, it’s an opinion, NOT ignorance. Please do not use this word to refer to my views anymore. Thank you.

  • This reply was modified 6 years, 4 months ago by framarianna.
Post # 82
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: A very pretty church.

When I was single I would always look for a ring (or a tan line >.>) when I was out on the town. It let me know that a guy was off limits without even having to talk to him. I’ve also found that a ring on the correct finger means I get a lot less attention (at least from nice guys). I know I will be happier if my partner sends an unambiguous “unavailable” signal when he’s out and about after we seal this deal. Of course people can cheat, of course rings can come off…but it would certainly concern me if this small but public symbol of our marriage was too “public” for him. This is probably due to my upbringing. I don’t think my father has ever worn a ring (in either of his two marriages), he cheated on my mother and eventually left. I suspect that he never liked being tied down or reminded of that fact (even if he was perfectly happy having someone tied to him).

Broaching this topic with my fiancé he initially was not enthused. He doesn’t wear any jewellery and claimed it wasn’t culturally approrpiate (…and that his dad never wore a ring). Then we went to dinner with his parents and I pointed out his dad’s ring to him. He asked his father about it “of course son, this is how you show you are married in this country, your mother and I have always worn rings here”. The look on his face was priceless.

Sadly though our rings are only for R&R, neither of us will be allowed to wear them on the wards. Oh well.

Post # 83
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

My abusive ex h hated wearing his really beautiful ring.  He said those things intentionally to hurt me.  My now dh has a much plainer ring but he was adamant from the start that he would have & wear a ring.  The only time he takes his ring off is to go in the pool.

It means a lot to me.  Probably because my ex was so hateful about it.

Post # 84
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429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

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Kimbalina81:  my husband doesn’t wear his. He does physical work all day so it doesn’t make sense but even then on weekends etc he doesn’t wear it. Jewellery just isn’t his thing. I’m cool with it. I also didn’t change my surname when we got married and he’s cool with that. I don’t think it really means anything. Plenty of men wear their rings and slip them off in a bar if they want to do something dodge. Everyone knows we are married whether our surnames are different or if we don’t wear our rings.

Post # 85
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Busy bee

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framarianna: I don’t think most people see it the way you do, and that’s fine, as long as you can distinguish your opinion from universal law.

You may see a married man not wearing a ring, and you shouldn’t assume he holds your line of thinking. Many people just don’t like wearing rings, and it has nothing at all to do with their love. 

Post # 86
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Sugar bee

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Newbie1982:  just out of curiosity are you Ms or Mrs? I think its the prefix rather than the surname which signifies you’re married 

Post # 87
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Helper bee

Apparently there are a lot of people who think that wearing a wedding ring is important.. I have never mentioned love in my posts.. This has little to do with love. It’s a matter of taking the wedding ring for what it universally is – a symbol. I have clearly stated in my previous post that this was ” my two cents”. This is my view of men who don’t wear their wedding reason for no apparent reason. If you feel comfortable with your hubby not wearing his ring, it’s fine, but my opinion will not change.. I hope I’m entitled to have one.

Post # 88
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

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christabel:  I’m still miss ha ha! We’re expecting out first baby though so I’m changing my name for hospital records as the baby would be called

” baby my surname” if I use my maiden name and I really want our baby to have his/our surname! So realistically once baby is here I’ll be changing to mrs DH surname as I would like us all to be the same.

i suppose it just wasnt a huge deal for us before now I don’t think it changed anything for us whether we wore rings or had the same surname. Now that there’s a family coming into play we will all have the same surname. Like I didn’t feel the need to rush and change all my cards and bills to my married name after the wedding etc.just to show ppl I am now married. A baby coming though makes that seem more important.

Post # 89
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Blushing bee

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Kimbalina81:  GOOD question! My fiance’ said he doesn’t really care for rings, but is doing it for me. Basically, he doesn’t even wear a watch, let alone a ring. It bums me out, because I think he should wear one as a symbol of our marriage, but I also respect it.

I think there are times and places, however, when not to wear a band. For example, my brother is a plumber. He wears his regardless, however, if he does anything with electricity, he could actually burn his hand with that ring. Same if you’re at the gym. I actually would rather my fiance’ NOT wear his band at the gym because it can get stuck on something and actually distroy your whole finger. I’m not going to suggest you google that, but I’ve seen some NASTY outcomes when lifters or people who work out wear bands.

Post # 90
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

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Kimbalina81:  my hubby forgets it all the time. Does it bother me? Yes. Does it mean that he loves me less or we are less married? Nope. We’ve only been married a month so hoping as time passes it becomes more of an automatic thing for him to make sure he puts it on before leaving the house. It’s a bit big on him so I think he is worried about loosing it.

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