Post # 1
I love hearing stories of bees who’s SO’s/DH’s/FI’s just knew from the start that his girl was “The One”, and wanted to move quite quickly with engagement etc. My SO is like this and he is so different from guys I’ve been with before, who seemed scared of marraige and avoided talk of commitment, made me second guess myself about whether I was ‘wife material’ etc etc.
At about the 2 mo mark my SO told me very solemnly that he wanted to marry me, and asked if I felt the same (which I did!) He has told his parents of his intentions, introduced me to all his family and is waiting to meet my dad to discuss it with him. I have been the one with my foot on the brakes, just because I am so not accustomed to this! My SO was single for 3 years before we met and was a serial dater. He says he feels like he’s waited his whole life for this =)
I am interested to hear from other bees who’ve been in this situation, and how it has turned out. I have to be honest, if I didn’t know my SO and someone was just telling me about him I would wonder if he was going to have a freak out and think he moved too fast. But knowing my SO I am not all that concerned about that happening (we’ve discussed this which is what has put me at ease about it).
I have certainly had my fair share of lemons so am pretty happy that finally it seems to be working out (even though of course we still have a bit of a way to go!)
This topic was modified 4 years, 6 months ago by sosojamie.
Post # 2
My husband and I were like this. We met one evening as the local bar was closing down. I could tell by the look on his face he was infatuated with me and I was very smitten with him. We went out the next night and have only been apart for 48hrs since! (2yrs!) We knew we were right for each other and had faith everything would work out. 2 months after meeting & falling in love, we quit our jobs in restauarants and moved 3 hrs away to a large city where we would have more options for employment & having fun. That was a tough one as we didn’t get jobs before moving. We had some savings together, and luckily we have great supportive parents that helped us for about a month to 6 weeks until we found work, at the same place but different departments! He proposed to me on my birthday 11months after we met, a complete surprise to me! I knew we both wanted to get married and we want a family, I just had no idea it was going to happen then!!
We set our wedding date for May 5, two years after meeting a falling in love. We had a small, intimate wedding with close family attending and a close friend officiating. It was beautiful!! We didn’t take a honeymoon due to finances and good thing since we’ve been laid off our jobs since a week after the wedding!!! I was just thinking that I’m not that concerned about our future since I know we will find a way to get through this together. Its the best feeling in the world.
I hesitate to tell people how quickly our relationship evolved, for fear of them thinking or saying we won’t last. We basically merged everything instantly! We joke that we eloped with no ceremony!! I love him so much and I know he loves me as well and we couldn’t be happier!!
Glad to know we aren’t the only couple that this happened to!!!!
Post # 3
About two months in he told me he wanted to marry me.
The day after we met, he asked our mutual friend about me, and was depressed to learn that I was a. in a relationship, and b. moving away soon. He told his best friend “I finally met the perfect person for me, but it will never work out.”
He decided that since it wasn’t going to happen, he could at least try for being friends while I was around, and he was an amazing friend. I didn’t even think he had feelings for me (and I tried to convince myself that my feelings were platonic, too). Eventually ex and I broke up (for totally unrelated reasons), and things immediately fell into place with Fiance. 🙂
Post # 4
My husband and I were like this too. About 2 months in he told me he couldn’t wait to marry me one day. His lease was ending in a few months time, and I had to move out of my flat in a few weeks. We had both been seriously thinking about buying our own place, so we had a serious discussion about the future, talked about marriage, kids, etc, and decided to put our money together and buy a bigger place together. While we were buying a place, I moved into his tiny one-bedroom appartment temporarily and we lived among boxes for a few months.
Once the deal on our house was finalized, we moved into our own house together and 4 months later he proposed.
We got married after a year and a half of being together and our first baby is on the way 🙂
I never felt any fear of committment from his side and there was never any fear from my side either.
Post # 5
Lovely to hear stories of this situation working out.
Post # 6
It’s f—-ing crazy by society’s standards! I overanalyzed all of my other relationships and moved slowly. This one just flew.
Post # 7
We met, he told me he wanted to marry me after about two weeks, after six weeks we moved in together and at 2 years we bought a house. We got engaged at the 3.5 year mark (just under).
We get married in 16 days. 🙂
Post # 8
I was living in a flat, my flat. My then boyfriend had moved in with me. Not long after I was all dressed up , walking out our front door to meet him for lunch. As I was locking the door a man much older said hi, your beautiful, am going to marry you one day. I was like eeeww you dirty old man. Then a weeks weeks / months went by. My relationshipwent sour aw he use to throw stuff at me. One night he threw a hot plate of spaghettibolognese at my head. With it in my hair, on my face and down my front I walked out of the flat. I sat crying on the curb outside when the dirty old man from upstairswalked by . He took me in to his flat. Let me bath. Made me tea, let me hwv his bed while he took the sofa and made me feel safe. My boyfriendleft and I got with the dirty old man whose first words were he was going to marry me. Just shtt of 7months layer we were indeed married. And in Octoberthis year we celebrate our 9th weddinganniversary
Post # 9
point62pink: Great story. I love older men and am dying to know what the age diff is.
Great thread and love reading about all of your whirlwind romances 🙂
Post # 10
Are you sitting down????
Beegritte: our age gap is 37yrs. I am 29 in July and my husband was 66 in march just gone.
we started dating on 28th march 2006, got engagement on the 13th July 2006 , I had my 20th birthday on the 24th July 2006 and we married on the 17th October 2006.
since which we have only spent 5weeks apart.
2 weeks in 2007 on a pre paid family holiday
1 week in 2008 on a works holiday my shop won
the rest are just days added up were I have either stayed at a hotel on my works Christmas do or the odd night at my grans
Post # 11
My fiance and I knew each other for 4 years and had crushes on each other but were both dating other people. We never really talked to each other and we only saw each other a handful of times over those years.
Finally we were both single at his birthday party. Three weeks into the relationship he told me he had been in love with me for years, he told me he wanted to marry me at 3 months, he asked my dad at 7 months and started working on my ring, and we got engaged at 15 months. We’re getting married in January the day before what would be our 2 year dating anniversary.
We had both been in 5-6 other serious “I love you” long term relationships before, so we knew that what we had was “it” when we found it. We had a lot to compare it to- and NOTHING compared. Our relationship was worlds different and better from the start. And I had thought I would marry a few of my exes! I just had no idea how good and right a relationship could really be. It was very obvious from the very beginning we would get married.
For a long term story, my parents got engaged after 3 weeks, married at 6 months. They are still together 35 years later. They both were older and also had a lot of other relationships. I think that is the key for this kind of thing, if you know what is out there, you know when something really incredibly right comes along.
Post # 12
sosojamie: My husband said he knew after our first conversation. He actualy kept a journal about it. He wrote in it until he had the courage to tell me he loved me. We got marred 12 weeks into the relationship. He gave me the joural as an anniversary gift
Yes, it was really fast, but he was almost 47 and I had just turned 30. 8 years later, we have no regrets.
Post # 13
The day my SO met me he was out with his brother at the mall where we first met – he told his bro that he’d just met the girl he was going to marry!
Post # 14
I love these stories – so beautiful! Thank you bees for all your stories so far =)
Post # 15
point62pink: Absolutely amazing. Thanks so much for sharing!