(Closed) Men who just knew from the start that you were "the one", and who moved fast

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 16
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510 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

We are not married yet but we met and dated for 3 months and then we got a house together, my parents said I was crazy, then a few months layer we adopted a little dog, then another one then he proposed at the one year mark ๐Ÿ™‚

We just knew, and my parents were really worried because there is a 9 year age gap, but they realised pretty quickly I am the mature one lol

We are having a long engagement though, saving up is hard! 

Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

sosojamie:  Darling Husband and I had our first date on March 15, he called me on his way home from the date & we talked for hours.  I heard from him every single day following the date.  Two weeks and a date or two later he sent a HUGE flower arrangement to my office with a havd written card from him asking me to go away for the weekend with him.  I had my reservations about going so fast/early but decided what the heck.  That trip sealed the deal & we were both smitten, especially him, well he was smitten on the first date actually.  

Within the first two or three months we were saying things like “some day when we’re married”.  Ten months after we met he proposed on Christmas day.  And I had NOTHING to do with it.  Didn’t help choose a ring, didn’t know the proposal was even coming.  I know that is very unusual (at least on the bee) but I loved it that way.  

We had to have a long, 16 month engagement for logistical reasons.  We celebrated our first anniversary a little over a month ago.  

Him moving with such intent early on was very confidence building.  It gave me confidence in him as a man and partner and it gave confidence to the foundation of our relationship.  I love our story ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 18
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7430 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

We met and became inseparable immediately. He really pursued me and didn’t play games, which was a very welcome change for me. We were in love by 2 weeks in. We went on vacation 2 months into our relationship, and he asked me to go look at rings with him when we came home. He proposed to me on another vacation at about the 6 month point of our relationship. We officially moved in together after that, even though we were basically already living together. We got married after 10 months of dating. We’ve been together now for a little over 3 years, and we have an 18 month old Dear Daughter and I’m pregnant with baby #2 ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 19
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526 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

sosojamie:  hate to be the Debbie Downer on this board, but my ex fiancé was like this.  Moved very fast, wanted to get engaged after two months.  I’m the one who made him wait. My ex is a psychopath.  Lots of times, disordered people form really quick, superficial intimacies with their victims.  

Do whirlwind romances happen?  Yes, of course they do.  (It happened to my parents and one set of my grandparents.). I’m still a believer, but protect yourself.  

Please read about the psychopathic/sociopathic three step love cycle of idealization/devaluation/discard.  I spent three years and was two weeks short of marrying my ex.  I wish I had known about the psychopathic love bond before my experience.

Post # 19
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1303 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Hawksnest Cove Beach St John USVI

Darling Husband told me he loved me a few weeks in (and I loved him). We moved in together quickly and he proposed after only a few months. Everyone seemed to know that we were meant for each other, we didn’t have a single person who was shocked that our relationship was moving so quickly even though he and I had both been burned in long term relationships before, but we both knew what we wanted in a mate. 

We had a longer engagement and ended up moving across the country in the middle of it, but we have been married almost 4 months now and no regrets. 

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

yep! It was mutual for us. After our second date I emailed my sister and said I was going to marry him (she read the email out in her wedding speech! haha). 3 weeks into our relationship we dropped the L bomb. We would have gotten engaged sooner than we did (1 year) but we were too scared people would think we were crazy. Looking back on it I wish we did! Screw what everyone else thinks, when you know, you know!!!! 

Post # 21
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146 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: The Mansion at Valley Country Club

We started talking about marriage at the two-month mark. My Fiance was a serial dater too–I mean, he never, ever had a relationship longer than three months but dated CONSTANTLY. I rarely dated but had had several long-term relationships. 

But…I don’t know. We just knew early on that it felt right. That we worked. I felt better about our relationship after two months than I did about a guy I was with for two years. Once we realized we were in it for the long run, we slowed down. We moved in together after 8 months, became engaged at 15 months, and will be married a little over two years in.

Post # 22
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

sosojamie:  My Fiance was like this. He said ‘I love you’ first and he was the first one to say that we would be getting married someday. I would always say “you know, IF we getting married” or “MAYBE one day, if everything works out…” and then one day I said “if” and he cut in and said, “Stop saying ‘if.’ There is no ‘if.’ We’re getting married someday” and from there it just kind of stuck. He was ready a little before me, but we mutually decided to wait a couple of years to get engaged and then a couple of years to get married. We moved in together after a year.

Post # 23
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Helper bee

My Fiance and I met in college. We were just friends and one day our class was cancelled so we went to a cafe near campus to wait for our next class to start. We were talking about random things, and at one point he started talking about his life plans. He then said very matter of factly that I was his future wife and we’re going to be married in 5 years. Our wedding is next month, 5 years from the time he first predicted it. 

Post # 24
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180 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2020

Our relationship is kind of like this! We got together in 2009. We had only been dating for about a month, and one night at a party, he said “I’m going to marry you”. I was only 20, so not exactly ready to jump into marriage. We moved in together after dating for only two months. December of 2012 we bought our home. Now, six years after he told me he’d marry me, we are finally getting married this summer ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 25
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159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: TBD

Great stories, ladies!

What’s funny about my story is, is that my fiance swore up and down after his last marriage that he would never, ever, ever get married again. Surprisingly enough, he asked me to marry him after 4 months of being together and I moved in with him a month later. We knew each other for a year before we met, but never got the chance to really get to know one another because we both ended up in relationships. We started talking again, talking sense in to one another to break up with the people we were with and how we deserved better (they were awful) and the rest is pretty much history. And it was indeed love at first site. Soon as he seen me, he gave me a big hug and snuck that first kiss!

Post # 26
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I totally believe in love at first sight! About a month after meeting my Fiance, we were talking about moving in together. Everyone tried to tell me it was too soon, but I knew he was the one… He had been married before and wasn’t sure if he would get married again.. I guess I changed his mind ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 27
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2853 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

charlie486:  That is such a cute story!!

Post # 29
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405 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2006

Aww thanks your welcome

Am just glad i found my one at a young age and we were on the same page from the get go and still are. Love is love and it ignores rules like age, sex, race, religion and disability

Beegritte:  

Post # 30
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Bumble bee

Annonnie89:  Holy crap, that sounds like my ex. I was his longest relationship, too, just a year and a half. I thought he was just bad at picking girlfriends (3 that lasted less than 6 months each), but I guess he really was the problem. Thank goodness I figured out he was a dud before he even proposed, though I’m not entirely convinced he planned to.

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