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posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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5655 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

@HotPinkFire: I don’t think it’s wrong to feel that way.. especially knowing your FH. I would just talk to him about it and see if an agreement can be found that he won’t drink… hanging out is just fine but I’m sure that he wants to be able to enjoy the day he gets married just like you do, and if he’s hungover then he probably won’t get to enjoy much.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

He’s going to have to make the decision for himself, but I understand why you’re upset.  If he’s not a drinker, why are they taking him out for drinks in the first place?

Post # 6
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843 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

To be completely honest, we went out with our out of town friends before the wedding, after the rehearsal dinner.  I don’t really see a problem with it.  He’s an adult who already doesn’t like drinking and probably doesn’t want to be hung over on the wedding day so won’t drink anyway.  He just wants to hang out with his friends.  Why don’t you get together with your friends?

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

@jenewitt: I was going to suggest the same thing. All our friends met up at a bar after our rehearsal and we had so much fun. This way he gets to hang out with his friends but things won’t get out of control because you’re around.

Post # 8
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4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Is your Fiance a grown man? Does your Fiance know how to say “NO?”

 

If the answer is yes, what’s the deal. He should go out, but drink non-alcoholic beverages. He’s a big boy now, let him be one.

Post # 9
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3482 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I never approve of drinking outings the night before a wedding, but that’s beside the point. Just talk to your Fiance about why this is upsetting you, and then let him decide for himself what he wants to do.

Post # 11
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4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

You’re emotional because his buddies want to take him out for a drink? Ok…. you do realize that he can say no right?

Post # 13
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1489 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

He will be fine… He knows his limits

 

Post # 14
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3799 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If he knows his limits and then chooses to be hungover the next day, that is his problem. I would just remind him to be careful and remember his limits…the rest is up to him. In my relationship, I am the one that can’t drink, and whenever Fiance sees me get out of control, he just lets me wreck myself and then the next morning he always says…I TOLD YOU SO!

Post # 15
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13099 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Let him go out with his friends.  If your Fiance doesn’t really drink, he isn’t going to end up wasted and hung over for your wedding because he isn’t going to want to drink.  So you really don’t have anything to worry about.

Our rehearsal dinner had a full open bar and then we were all playing drinking games in the hotel room the night before the wedding before we went to bed.  Not one person was hung over the next day because we all know our limits.

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper

@vmec: just to clarify – the OP said she was emotional because she is getting married a few days, not just because of her Fiance going out for drinks. you will probably find during the week  of your wedding, things that stress you out will be amplified. i was freaking out the night before my wedding because i didn’t have tweezers!  any other night of the year, i would make a note to go buy some when i get a chance and forget about it.

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