(Closed) Mens suits. Handing over control. Did you? HELP! Poll!

posted 5 years ago in Grooms/men
  • poll: What would you do?
    Let HIM pick the suits. Alone. With NO bridey 'help'. He's not done anything, poor dear. : (13 votes)
    24 %
    Let HIM pick the suits but offer a 'helping hand' in which you secretly push him a certain way. : (27 votes)
    50 %
    YOU pick the suits. You've done everything else, and you know what matches the theme. : (10 votes)
    19 %
    Other... comment below : (4 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
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    3569 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I think you guys should work to make sure the colors are complimentary. But at the end of the day it should be his choice. Do you want him to be uncomfortable or dislike his clothing on the wedding day?

    I also think other then your Sister and few wedding obsessed guest no going to care or realize that she had brown suits at her wedding. Can you show examples of the colors? Brown and Blue can look great together, perhaps it would be best to eliminate the wine color, and leave the brown the suits.

    Post # 4
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    140 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    i was wondering the same thing, my FI trusts me with whatever planning im doing, but do i go and pick out the colors and then let the guys go together and be sized, i dont want to ruin their special time like i had with my girls doing bridemaids dresses, but i know the colors i want for the guys

    Post # 5
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    732 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    My Fi hasnt been involved very much, except discussing the budget when we started the planning process and the guest list. But other than that ive been doing everything. Im letting him pick his and the groomsmen attire. I asked that he stay to our colors, and to wear nice shoes.. hes the kind of guy to wear sneakers. Converse arnt so bad, but skater shoes..just no lol I figure he has to wear it, and he had no say in what Im wearing at all. Fair is fair

    Post # 6
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    3417 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge

    I’ve told my FI straight up that this is what he’s wearing.  I’ll let him have some say such as the tie he wears etc but for the most part he’s not wearing a full on tux as he thought he was going to.  It doesn’t match our style/theme of the wedding and I won’t have it.

    Post # 7
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    1891 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I originally was letting him pick the suits, but then when he told me what he wanted and it was awful/costumey, I had to shut him down to go with something more classic.  Sorry, honey!

    Post # 8
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    8993 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    My husband was completely open to my ideas for what I would have liked him to wear. I told him that at our formal wedding, I just want him to wear a boutonniere that matched my bouquet.

    He’s free to pick whatever he’d like to wear. He didn’t have any say in my wedding dress, I don’t need to have a say in his attire.

    All I require of him is to show up.

    Post # 9
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I would just let him pick and not stress about it. I think the brown/mulberry guys will go just fine with your ice blue/navy girls. 

    Post # 10
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    1448 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    And people gripe about their guys not wanting to be involved in wedding planning.  If their input literally doesn’t matter, why be involved?

    Post # 11
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    166 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Didn’t read all replys.  If he is not terribly interested, I would just give some choices (that you can live with) and let him pick.  If he still isn’t interested, you make the choice.  

    Post # 12
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    5425 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2012

    We went together and picked out what we both liked.  He kinda let me have reigns with the little details like collar types and what not.  All he really wanted was a bow tie. 

    Go together and make it a joint effort.  If he is so laid back then he will probably just agree to almost whatever you suggest.  Could you meet down the middle?  Grey suit with his red options?  When you say brown do you mean like dark brown or khaki?  Grey and mulberry go well together too.

    Post # 14
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    119 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I voted “other.” My fiance has been really involved in planning, and I am getting very stressed out lately. I am handing it over to him completely, because he’s been involed, not because he hasn’t, like one of the other poll options. If he asks my advice, I will give it. I will also request the suits match the dresses, but that’s it.

    Post # 15
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    3417 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge

    @Anise:  For me I want FI to be more involved in planning.  But his answer is always “Whatever you want, I don’t care.” He did let me know what he didn’t like in a wedding dress and I took it into consideration.  He also put his 2 cents in about our colors.  So since I let him help (and would like for him to help more) I figure he needs to take the same consideration when deciding on his suit.

    Post # 16
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    464 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    My FI is getting a new suit, most styles will look good on him.

    I’ve suggested a couple of general ideas and have learned that he has some STRONG opinions about some things–as in no tails, no vest, no double-breasting and nothing already hanging in the closet.  He wants a whole new outfit, and is anything BUT the clotheshorse type.

    We’re shopping on Saturday and I expect to be surprised with more STRONG opinions. In the end, though, I want him to feel as comfortable as possible because he hates being photographed as well. Laughing

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