(Closed) men’s waiting cycle?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
962 posts
Busy bee

I just asked my bf this question after reading your post.


Me: Baby, you know how we are about to go through a big transition in our relationship? Do you ever have different feelings about that and do they ever go in waves? Like do you cycle between anxious and excited and nervous?

Him: No. I don’t have weird cycles like you.


He then scratched his back, ate some more wings and went back to watching CSI. lol.

Post # 4
1088 posts
Bumble bee

@jackndiane:  Lol.  I love it!  I think that most guys don’t REALLY think about wedding related things until they are about to happen.  And even then, who does MOST of the planning?  Not them.  They don’t have to get too emotional about the whole thing because they know that we will take care of the details.

A (male) friend of mine once told me that when he was in his buddy’s wedding, all the groomsman and the groom watched movies and played video games in the hotel until about an hour before the wedding.  They then showered, put on their tuxes, and went downstairs to the ceremony. 

When’s the last time you heard of a bridal party doing that?  Lol. 

Post # 5
413 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@ChicChick: I know!! Guys are much more relaxed than us. Everytime I ask J about what he thinks of something, he says “Ya, it’s alright”. To me, that sounds like “Meh, I dunno. It’s ok.” But J tells me that when he says that, it means he likes it and it’s great.

Um… So say that! I dunno, guys are weird. I think they get excited when they’re standing up there watching their bride come down the aisle… But that’s about it, lol.

Guys?? Any men on here want to comment?


Post # 6
588 posts
Busy bee

@jackndiane: sounds oh so familiar!!! haha

@ChicChick: HAHA that is just not fair!! we would NEVER do that!

I think guys “cycles” are more a constant nervousness, “will she like my proposal?” “will she like the ring” “will I mess it all up” “will it meet all HER expectations?”

etc etc etc …….. its all on them! until the proposal is over, then they can sit back and say “whatever you want honey, its your dream wedding” =) we all hope!

Post # 9
297 posts
Helper bee

I think that some guys’ stages are more blunt and pronounced…

1) Yup, I love her.  I’d like to her be around for a while.

2) She’s the one.  I should start thinking about getting married, huh?

3) Ok, I WANT to get married….wait, am I ready to get married?

4) Ok, I’m ready, she’s ready, let’s get this ring and proposal planned!

Post # 10
359 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@phoenix718: I agree. I saw definate pre-proposal stages with my fiance, and it was like really sudden changes too.

Post # 11
1088 posts
Bumble bee

@GwenvonD:  I second your request for any men to comment!

Post # 12
3296 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

I think my bf is going through waiting cycles. He’s working super hard at work and being incredibly frugal to give me a nice ring, he’s looked up wedding info on his own (much to my shock) and he’s always stuck on “the exciting thing we’re doing this summer” LOL

Post # 13
629 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@jackndiane: Hahahaha… I envisioned the scene with my man and myself, and it fits perfectly with us too! Even if men did have “cycles” I doubt they would recognize them and such, or even care. Thanks for making me LOL!

Post # 14
5371 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

Haha my SO was like, for a while I wanted to enjoy just dating and I didn’t think we were fully ready, then I woke up and felt we were ready. Now I just want the proposal/ring/etc to work out.

Wayyyy more simple than what I’ve been feeling this whole time! 😉

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