Post # 1
Ok, so we’re 6 months out now, and I guess we need to start looking for some wedding bands! I have NO idea what I’m looking for in regards to FI’s ring. What metals are best? I hear tungsten and titanium last a while, but can’t be resized.
What does your DH/FH’s ring look like? How did y’all come to this decision?
I don’t even know where to start.
Post # 3
We got two wedding bands for my husband. His “traditional” wedding band is white gold, with a hammered kind of texture. It’s what he loved and chose. That’s the one we engraved.
But he’s a musician and music teacher by profession, so he can be hard on his hands. So we got him a tungsten carbide band as well, which is more durable for when he’s doing things like playing drums. It has the same coloring as his white gold band, and a very similar texture, so most people probably can’t even tell the difference. The tungsten carbide band was very affordable. I think < $200, which made us able to get both!
Post # 4
We got tungsten carbonide, mostly for the style/colors they offer. Conveniently they are very inexpensive as well!
Post # 5
I got him a white gold ring and if I could I would have gotten him something else because it turned yellow less than six months after the wedding and we already had it rhodium plated to restore the original color.
Post # 6
@Leland: Oh no! I wonder what happened? It’s been almost 10 months since our wedding, and my husband’s white gold band still looks great! We’ll probably get it re-dipped at one-year, but that’s just typical for white gold rings.
Post # 7
We went to the store together and each picked out our own rings. FI’s is palladium with a brushed finish (he didn’t want shiny). Tungsten and titanium can’t be resized, and I’ve also heard they are problematic because in emergency situations, they can’t be cut off.
Post # 8
We went for Palladium for him. He tried on quite a few different metals and band widths and ended up with a 6mm brushed finished design (as a pp said – no shiney!!) it was what he felt was most comfortable on his skin. It was more expensive (by q fair bit) than a tungsten, but he’s going to be wearing it forever, so it’s worth it. Mine is platinum.
Post # 9
We got cobalt chrome and 7 months later, we still love it!!
It’s cheap like tungsten, but doesn’t break. It’s also white like white gold, but doesn’t turn yellow or need rerhodiumed.DH’s ring has scratched maybe 30% of what my white gold ring scratched. So it doesn’t scratch much like titanium.
We love it!
Post # 10
@Beckster329: The alloys used in the titanium jewelry are nearly 100% titanium. These can be cut off using the same emergency room tools used to cut off other rings. The difference is that a titanium ring has to be snipped twice (top and bottom) since it can’t be bent.
Aircraft (and other industrial grade) alloys of titanium are MUCH harder. If you were to make and wear a ring out of one of those alloys it would take significantly longer for energency medical personnel to get the ring off your finger. In that time the finger might be lost. (This information is available online from both jewelry sources and medical sources. I asked a doctor friend before we got my FH’s titanium ring.)
Tungsten rings can be crushed with vice grips to be removed in an emergency situation.
@LizLemon: Once we’d determined that titanium was indeed safe, FH picked the ring he wanted. He’s the one wearing it, so he gets to pick it. (I picked my band!) He went for an engraved titanium, because the engraving reminded him of the antique gun his grandfather had.
Post # 11
If you’re looking for Tungsten, JVL jewelry usually has a coupon code that equates to getting the ring FREE (you only pay for any engraving and shippin is $25 per ring). That might be an affordable option…
Post # 12
Due to FI’s nickel allergy, our options were: Platinum, Palladium, Titanium or Tungsten (without going into less popular metal choices or ones I didn’t know about before the Bee.) Platinum was way too expensive and scratches easily. Palladium was our first choice, but it wasn’t in the budget at this time (it’s about the same as gold, price-wise, though it varies). He ended up choosing Titanium over Tungsten simply because that’s the style he liked…he would have been fine with either. We both plan to upgrade our Titanium wedding bands to Palladium for our anniversary, but it was important to me that we matched as much as we could…so I went with whatever he chose.
For the record: Titanium and Tungsten can’t be sized (to my knowledge), but Palladium can a little bit, it’s difficult but it is possible if necessary. Finding a jeweler who works with palladium is the tricky part, although it seems to becoming a little more popular. I hope this helped!!
Post # 13
Titanium and tungsten are really similar from what we learned at the jeweler store and online. We found this site http://www.tungstenworld.com/, they have tungsten mostly but also cobalt chrome, which seems really interesting. For us, gold is just too price and not his style either. I could never see him with any gold jewelry on, so tungsten is probably going to be our choice because it looks more machine like.
Post # 14
FWIW, while it’s technically possible to remove tungsten and titanium rings, it does take substantially longer than it takes to cut off the precious metals. In DC I had a nine-fingered customer – he had previously had a tungsten wedding band which could not be removed in time to save his finger after a window slammed shut on his hand.
The inability to size will also become a problem for lots of folks. Nine out of ten people will have their knuckles change size as they age, so don’t buy a nontraditional metal unless you’re not the sentimental type, since you have to not mind buying a new wedding band a decade down the line.
Post # 15
While tonights is correct, it does take longer to remove tungsten and titanium rings, the injury described is a crush injury, (ouch!) and that finger was probably pretty beaten up, and may not have been salvagable even if the gentleman hadn’t been wearing a ring. (Part of my job is to track & follow up on hand injuries. Sadly, we have more than a few in my industry.)
Here’s a link to an experiment done by the UCSF School of Medicine showing the different removal times for rings made of various metals. http://www.fresno.ucsf.edu/em/posters/snowdenposter2010.pdf
Every person should make their own choice about the metal of their rings, having the most accurate information available always makes me feel better about making big choices.
Post # 16
I honestly don’y know much about men’s bands (guilty :P) but I DO know that HOF has a men’s band page you could check out for pics and ideas:
Sorry I don’t have any advice for you 🙁 hope this helps!