(Closed) Mentally ill Mother rant

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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5977 posts
Bee Keeper

If you really don’t want any contact with her, take those letters and get a restraining order against her. That way, if she ever contacts you again in the future, she’ll have to answer to the police for it.

Post # 4
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7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@2PeasinaPod:  That sounds like the best way to handle this.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@MarryMeTiffany:  not even for harrassment?  It seems like there should be somethign to protect people from this! So sorry you’re having such a difficult time:(  (((hugs)))

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My mom is not mentally “well” either, but lucky for me she is not abusive in this way.  It is a tough thing to accomplish, but you need to try to emotionally disconnect yourself away from her and the rest of that family if needbe.  As painful as that can be, it’s less painful than the letters and her harsh treatment.   Your child will be better off not having that influence in their life.  It’s hard and painful to admit this, but sometimes it is for the best.  Just because we are born into a family does not mean we need to always carry their burden.  You have your new family now and you can focus on building the kind of life you want to live.  Sorry you’re dealing with all this.  How someone could ever say “I don’t care” about a grandbaby is beyond me.  🙁

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

My mother in law has borderline personality disorder and unfortunately she becamse so toxic we had to cut her out of our life.  We recently sent her a note that said “we are happy to share we are expecting a baby this fall.”  But we do not plan on being involved with her.  She is dangerous, negative, and unstable.  Unfortunately you need to cut out the people who cause you harm: emotionally or physically.  Good luck xoxo

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Have your lawyer draft up a cease and desist letter? That should stop her from contacting you without needing to prove intent to harm. Then join this community, you’ll get TONS of advice.

Post # 10
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5428 posts
Bee Keeper

Change your e-mail address and don’t give it to whoever is close to her so she doesn’t get it through them. And yes, I guess a restraining order is necessary (bring the e-mails with you)

Post # 11
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482 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Mental illness is very hard to deal with, You have to accept it for what it is, your mother is mentally ill

 

I’d suggest you take the moral high ground and stay civil, avoid conflict- moreso for your own sanity and to keep your stress levels reasonalby low. You are pregnant and you have to take care of yourself.

 

lean on your biological sibling for now, and your adopted ones will understand when they are older.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

@MarryMeTiffany:  You could always block her email address and throw away any letter mailed to you. I would not even read them.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@Soladylike as upsetting as it is, I would keep a record of every.single.thing she sends.

If she ever does take things too far you have to have enough documented history to get a R/O. You don’t have to read it and absolutely shouldn’t respond, but keep a record just in case.

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