Post # 1
A good friend of mine died 2 days ago, 3 weeks before our wedding. Now, while she was not in the wedding party (mainly because she was sick with cancer) she was very important to me. I want to somehow recognize her at our wedding. She is pretty much the only person who we would need to do this for as no one else close to us has died recently. I need some suggestions about how to do this. In the ceremony? During reception? Candle? Picture? Moment of silence? Any ideas????
Post # 3
We did a remembrance during our ceremony. We asked the officiant to say
“RedCactus and Mr. Redcactus would like to take a moment to acknowledge loved ones who are no longer with us, especially their late grandmother Mrs. RedCactus and friend X, who had supported them through the years, and whom they hold in their hearts always.”
Post # 4
I would stick to something like a candle or picture. A moment of silence may be a little too much for people who were close with her. 3 weeks will be a pretty crutial time for close friends and family. I guess I don’t know for sure. I would go with your gut.
Edit: I guess something @ the ceremony like stated above might be a good idea. I guess i was picturing the silence @ the reception. I think that may be a little too much for some people.
Post # 5
Mention it in the program (have a “remembrances” page that talks about how you wish X and Y were there, but you know they’re there in spirit, etc.), have a chair reserved with a candle/flower petals & framed photo (if you want — it’s not necessary), etc. If you want to mention it in your ceremony, mention it at almost the very beginning, i.e. “we’d like to thank everyone for coming today, and for those who can’t come — we know you’re watching over us”.
*HUGS* Sorry for your loss.