Post # 1
My fiance and I have a perfect 4 year old son and he will be our ring bearer. I always see the officiant mention the kids in weddings where the couple had kids prior to meeting each other and they’re now blending their families. The bride or groom usually say a speech or something to their future step child.
Is there anything like that for couples who already have a kid together? What could our oficiant say to recognize our son?
Post # 3
Speak to your officiant. I’m sure he/she has done weddings like this before.
Post # 4
@Soon2bMrsVk: One of my good friends did a really sweet thing, they did the unity sand, and she had her step-daughter her and her Darling Husband all put in part of the sand, each their own color, to show the three of them joining as one family, i thought it was cute and safer than candles! each got to say their own little piece about comming together as a family….it made me cry, and i am not a crier!
Post # 5
Maybe I’m weird, but I like the wedding to be about the two people being married, not about a child as well. Just my 2¢.
Post # 6
@Soon2bMrsVk: Well I try to never mention a child as being the “Bride’s child” or the “Groom’s child”. I try to say it is their child, no matter who the biological parent happen to be. Speak to your officiant and ask for options on how to include your son.
If your officiant can’t come up with any ideas, contact me and I will provide you with a few suggestions.
Post # 7
@bunnyharriet: me too, the wedding is about the couple not the children or “blended families” you are marrying the child, you are marrying the man or woman, the love of your life!
I would save the speech of “blended families” for the reception…
Post # 8
My friend and her now husband had a little girl before they got married, she was the flower girl and they also did a sand ceremony.