(Closed) Mentioning religion (God) during secular ceremony?

posted 5 years ago in Secular
Post # 2
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813 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

jbirdlee1015:  I wrote our entire ceremony and didn’t mention God the whole time and everyone loved it because it was personal.  So I don’t think anyone will be focused on that as much as you are.  Have him say what makes sense and feels right to you.

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

instead of saying “God” you can say “the creator.” it might sound kind of odd or unusual, but that term is used a lot in indigenous ceremonies and people can interpret it however they want. it can mean god or mother earth or whatever you believe.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

I don’t think it would be “out of place,” and if it doesn’t bother you and helps appease your family, it seems harmless.

Personally I’m having a truly secular wedding and would hate to have any mention of God. It would feel phony to us as a couple, because it’s simply not our beliefs. We don’t even want to let my Future Mother-In-Law read Corinthians because it’s from the Bible and that’s just not how we roll.

That being said,  wouldn’t judge an agnostic couple for adding in a few mentions to God. To each his own!

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper

If you are comfortable with it, then do it! The ceremony is a representation of you, not your friends and family. 

I’m nonreligious, and Fiance is Catholic. Our Protestant officiant has several mentions of the Holy Spirit in the ceremony, and even though I don’t personally believe, I’ll let it be because Fiance believes in it. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We had a secular officiant.  In a one of the sample ceremonies she sent us there were mentions of God.  I’m athiest and it was important to me not to have any mention of God or religion so we didn’t.  I had older relatives who made comments early in our wedding planning since it wasn’t in a church, but once the day came no one cared.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I don’t know where you live but in the UK you are not allowed to have anything even remotely religious in a secular wedding. My friend’s sister got married in s secular wedding and all her readings were checked through. Their other sister was not allowed to sing the song ‘Angels’ by Robbie Williams because angels are religious.

So I would check the rules where you live.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

As an athiest, I feel it is disingenuous to make your vows to suit other people’s beliefs.

If you do not believe in God, then I don’t think you should have a ceremony involving any mention. 

 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

andielovesj:  I feel the same way, but I think it’s okay for some people to give a nod to their family if their involvement is important to them…

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

jbirdlee1015:  We are being married by a Reverend.  But neither of us are religious.  So we chose his secular ceremony.   And then we changed everything!  Our vows are personalized (but still… repeat after me) and we took out a long reading.  Then we added in the ‘prayers of the faithful’ as a nod to my FI’s background.  We wrote our own prayers, they are pretty non-denominational.  And they say we ‘pray’ for whatever, but there’s no mention of God, so its pretty open to your own personal interpretation.  Well, the Rev called us on it at our final meeting.  😛  So he stuck in a slightly more religious blessing at the end than we would have picked.  But he says its his favourite.  

I don’t think its that out of place. 

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