(Closed) Mentioning RSVPs on Facebook…Rude or No?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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2515 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

i think it’s very rude. if there are only 15 people they haven’t heard from, then they need to contact each of those people privately and find out what’s up (even if it were more than 15, they still need to do it privately). calling people out on facebook is juvenile. 

Post # 4
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514 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@lovelylight99:  I have an old friend on facebook who did this, TWICE! It really bothers me. You should just call the people how hard is it! Or send them a text or email. Anything but this.

Post # 5
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398 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Guilty! I said: doesnt today seem like a lovely day to walk to the mail box and drop my rsvp in! Crappppp lol oh well i was getting antsy lol 

Post # 6
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299 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Totally rude… there were people we hadn’t heard from, but we emailed/called them privately because that’s.what.you.should.do. That is so tacky. 

Post # 7
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398 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Here is my thing, i think its incredibly rude to not rsvp then assume im going to track you down.     I would never wait until the last day…just saying i refuse to track people down. 

Post # 8
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488 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Talking about your wedding in that kind of detail on Facebook is rude IMO since a lot of your FB friends wouldn’t be invited. There’s a line between saying “Yay, only a month until I’m married!” and “Turn in your RSVP!” That should stay private.

Post # 9
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488 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@masterteee2013:  But things happen. No one else is going to make your wedding as much of a priority as you will, so they may forget about it. Unless you know specifically that they’re being rude, I wouldn’t want to assume bad things about the people I want at the wedding.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@masterteee2013:  i agree it’s rude to not get the RSVP in on time but it’s just as rude to call people out on facebook. we had to track down a few people and even then, we still didn’t get an answer. needless to say, we’re not friends anymore.

Post # 11
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2262 posts
Buzzing bee

Kinda rude since it is posted for everyone to see, but she could have at least just made it available for the 15 people that she made that for…

Post # 12
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148 posts
Blushing bee

eh, I don’t see it as a big deal. I think doing it this way made it general and no one felt singled out… Maybe all their facebook friends where invited? I only have like 50 friends and they’d all be invited…or it could be set so that only some people can see it, you never know. It’s not like the bride who wrote it said “Jesus people. Can you RSVP already? Youre making my life a nightmare right now and I’m gonna cancel your invite”…it was polite and explained why she needed the numbers. Reality is, people don’t get back to you and you do need to know.

Post # 13
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7735 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Meh. Not rude, just pointless. If people don’t respond to a personalised invite, are they really going to notice a general facebook message? She’s got to contact people individually.

Post # 14
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447 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

The tone of the post is what rubbed me the wrong way. Something like, “Remember the deadline to RSVP is xxx” would still be weird being posted in an open, and indirect, way.. but better than what you posted

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@lovelylight99:  just replying to say hi! I’m getting married in Buffalo also. It caught my attention when it said “avanti” 🙂

but yes, I agree that it’s rude. I’m hesitant to post ANYTHING about my wedding on facebook in fear of hurting someone’s feeling who isn’t invited.

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Etiquette Snob here…

Inappropriate… RUDE

8-} *rolls eyes*

One should not be making what amounts to a semi-public announcement about a private matter.

1- You don’t talk about a Party for 10 infront of 100, or a Wedding for 100 infront of a 1000 etc.  (Guessing that some who will see this page on FB won’t be on the Invited List)

2- You don’t call out people in public… she’s calling out those who haven’t RSVP’d… not by name but by reputation (not replying in a timely fashion)… thus embarassing them.

She should have called / contacted each one personally.

 

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