Post # 1
Okay…am I the only one who thinks this is weird and rude…? Saw this on FB on my FI’s cousin’s wall as her status…
Kind of a Public Service Announcement regarding the wedding: if I haven’t received your RSVP (or at least a message from you on FB or email or text if you lost the RSVP card or what not) in the next few days, I can’t count you in the final head count. Hate to do that, but we have to have this done very soon and without at least a ‘hey yeah we’ll be there’ or ‘hey I can’t’ or what not I don’t know what to put down :(. We are renting extra chairs for the ceremony and have an assigned seating chart for the reception (to tables not seats) that Avanti is following. If you show up and you’re not on the seating diagram, there’s nothing I can do at that point. We want everyone who was invited to be able to come and celebrate with us :). There’s about 15 people that are left in this category. If you’re reading this and you’re one of them (obviously, if you’re in the wedding party this is not you lol), please kindly drop the little purple envelope in the mail or let me know one way or another whether you’re coming or not. It’d be greatly appreciated! Thank you!!
Post # 3
i think it’s very rude. if there are only 15 people they haven’t heard from, then they need to contact each of those people privately and find out what’s up (even if it were more than 15, they still need to do it privately). calling people out on facebook is juvenile.
Post # 4
@lovelylight99: I have an old friend on facebook who did this, TWICE! It really bothers me. You should just call the people how hard is it! Or send them a text or email. Anything but this.
Post # 5
Guilty! I said: doesnt today seem like a lovely day to walk to the mail box and drop my rsvp in! Crappppp lol oh well i was getting antsy lol
Post # 6
Totally rude… there were people we hadn’t heard from, but we emailed/called them privately because that’s.what.you.should.do. That is so tacky.
Post # 7
Here is my thing, i think its incredibly rude to not rsvp then assume im going to track you down. I would never wait until the last day…just saying i refuse to track people down.
Post # 8
Talking about your wedding in that kind of detail on Facebook is rude IMO since a lot of your FB friends wouldn’t be invited. There’s a line between saying “Yay, only a month until I’m married!” and “Turn in your RSVP!” That should stay private.
Post # 9
@masterteee2013: But things happen. No one else is going to make your wedding as much of a priority as you will, so they may forget about it. Unless you know specifically that they’re being rude, I wouldn’t want to assume bad things about the people I want at the wedding.
Post # 10
@masterteee2013: i agree it’s rude to not get the RSVP in on time but it’s just as rude to call people out on facebook. we had to track down a few people and even then, we still didn’t get an answer. needless to say, we’re not friends anymore.
Post # 11
Kinda rude since it is posted for everyone to see, but she could have at least just made it available for the 15 people that she made that for…
Post # 12
eh, I don’t see it as a big deal. I think doing it this way made it general and no one felt singled out… Maybe all their facebook friends where invited? I only have like 50 friends and they’d all be invited…or it could be set so that only some people can see it, you never know. It’s not like the bride who wrote it said “Jesus people. Can you RSVP already? Youre making my life a nightmare right now and I’m gonna cancel your invite”…it was polite and explained why she needed the numbers. Reality is, people don’t get back to you and you do need to know.
Post # 13
Meh. Not rude, just pointless. If people don’t respond to a personalised invite, are they really going to notice a general facebook message? She’s got to contact people individually.
Post # 14
The tone of the post is what rubbed me the wrong way. Something like, “Remember the deadline to RSVP is xxx” would still be weird being posted in an open, and indirect, way.. but better than what you posted
Post # 15
@lovelylight99: just replying to say hi! I’m getting married in Buffalo also. It caught my attention when it said “avanti” 🙂
but yes, I agree that it’s rude. I’m hesitant to post ANYTHING about my wedding on facebook in fear of hurting someone’s feeling who isn’t invited.
Post # 16
Etiquette Snob here…
8-} *rolls eyes*
One should not be making what amounts to a semi-public announcement about a private matter.
1- You don’t talk about a Party for 10 infront of 100, or a Wedding for 100 infront of a 1000 etc. (Guessing that some who will see this page on FB won’t be on the Invited List)
2- You don’t call out people in public… she’s calling out those who haven’t RSVP’d… not by name but by reputation (not replying in a timely fashion)… thus embarassing them.
She should have called / contacted each one personally.