(Closed) Menu Help – Drinks

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: If you were invited you would expect ...
    That wine would be free after dinner service. : (23 votes)
    82 %
    To pay for wine after dinner service. : (5 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @Captain013:  I honestly think it’s a little weird to take up space in your invitations with this, especially since people can pay with credit cards the day of the wedding. I don’t think you need to make mention of this beforehand, at all.

    Also, I know it’s a money issue, but I think if you offered beer as well as wine people would generally be a lot happier. I wouldn’t mind that at all!

    Post # 5
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    2542 posts
    Sugar bee

    I am surprised to see in the poll results that people would expect the wine to be free after dinner. In my area it is very common to provide wine with dinner and then afterwards have a cash bar where people need to pay for their drinks, including the wine. If it were free it would be a nice bonus, but I would not expect it.

    Post # 6
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    1111 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @GeekChic:  It’s not that I would expect wine to be free after dinner in general for all weddings, but just that the suggested wording on this invite gives the impression that wine is on the house while cocktails are not.

    I agree with @September29 that mentioning this on the invite is unnecessary, especially since the bar accepts credit cards so you don’t need to warn guests about bringing cash.  I would leave it off!

    Post # 7
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    Don’t put anything about it on your invitation. If you want to let your guests know that they can purchase drinks all night long after your reception, I would put it on the website. Under a description of the dinner add a note that the reception is at a restaurant with a full bar, and that guests re welcome to stay and mingle after the party officially ends.

    Post # 8
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    2699 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Just fyi on another thread people were adament that they didn’t mind a cash bar as long as they were aware that they were expected to bring money. If you’re not putting it on your invites, be sure to make sure people spread the word. Personally, I think if you’re providing people with drinks during the meal, that’s more than sufficient 🙂

    Post # 9
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    1111 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @ticatica:  I thought that was moreso if it was a strictly cash bar (like paper money only) and cards weren’t accepted?  Guests will always have SOME form of money on them, it’s just that a lot of people don’t carry cash anymore.

    But I do agree that mentioning it on your wedding website would be a good idea.

    Post # 10
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    9056 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I don’t think that needs to be on the invite at all, especially if any form of payment is acceptable. 

    Post # 11
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @Ms Bookworm:  I personally don’t bring any form of money with me to a wedding.  

    I usually take a small clutch and don’t want to carry my wallet; I tuck my ID into the clutch with my lip gloss and medicine, but a credit card would be too easy to steal if I put my clutch down for dancing.  I like knowing in advance if there’s going to be a cash bar so I know to risk it and hide some cash in my clutch.

     

    Post # 12
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    1111 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @HappierKate:  Hmm, that’s good to know.  I guess I never leave home without some form of money (whether cash or debit card) because I might need to get gas, pay for something, emergency, etc.  Or, if I have a tiny clutch and don’t put my money in there, Fiance will always have card/cash.

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