- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
We are having a small backyard BBQ wedding for about 40 people. The menu has been a little challenging since we are blending 2 cultures (Fi is Puerto Rican so his family is used to Spanish food, my family is from the midwest). We are doing mostly everything ourselves so we’re trying to also make things as easy as possible.
Here’s our thoughts:
Small bar for mixed drinks
Crackers–meat, and cheese tray
Pigs in a blanket
Shrimp in garlic butter sauce
Toasted french bread on the grill
White rice and red beans
Baked potato bar
Macaroni and cheese
Wedding Cake (yellow with strawberry cream and/or lemon filling)
The menue above is ideal, but I’m having problems with the starches and my fmil. We’re having a little bit of an issue because she does not want to let anyone else in the kitchen and at the same time keeps shooting down my ideas. She says baked potatoes are too hard to make (I chose them because they are the easiest potatoe dish to possibly make). I’ve offered about 3 or 4 different possible ways to make them to counter each of her claims and keep hitting a wall. Finally, my Fi last night said he would personally make them himself that morning and we can just heat them up so that she would stop stressing about it. Potatoes are my family’s equivalent to rice (which she wanted to make 3 different kinds of).
So we finally took a break from the potatoe discussion and start arguing about macaronic and cheese. I want a simple recipe my mother has made for years–it’s basically nothing more than noodles with a little milk and velveeta cheese. Basically I just want a creamy version. Hers is a Paula Deen recipe that looks far more complicated and has a texture to it which I’m not a big fan of (and I know that some of the people like the kids from my family will not eat–and they’re a big part of why we’re making it). When I tried to tell her how important it was for me to have one that is creamy, she suggested having a co-worker make some that is…NOT creamy. It’s actually a recipe I disike even more than my own plus we are having a very small intimate wedding since we are limited on space and this co-worker isn’t even invited. I don’t want to ask her to make food which I don’t even like when she can’t come.
I think I’ve finally talked her down into a simple salad. She started adding all of these vegetables on top that neither Fi or I even like–we just wanted a simple garden salad with mozzarella and tomatoes. Dressings are still a fight–we decided we would like to do a bottle of Olive Garden’s house italian dressing and French (which is what both of our families eat). She insists on making a vinagraette herself (which is fine and not worth the fighting), but we’ve already told her this about 5 times and every other day she keeps asking about the salad.
Corn is the one request I made that went easy–and most of that is she’s started to become a big fan of corn since she knows how important it is to me. I’m from Iowa so it’s a staple item from me and she agreed that it was easier than the vegetables she typically does so that was an easy one.
I compromised on the meat–I originally wanted chicken or turkey with spiral ham and a pork loin. But I know Future Father-In-Law was really excited about the steaks and I know that pernil is a big Puerto Rican food so I just asked if we could add the spiral ham since it was easier to get than something with chicken (all of the meat was donated from FFIL’s work). We don’t have any vegetarians (and have the shrimp just in case we end up with one we don’t know about) and I’m certainly not going to complain about the selection when we have about $1200 of meat given to us for free.
But the whole starch argument is driving me crazy. Should I cut out either the potatoes or the mac and cheese? Some of my family will eat rice–others like my father won’t. He considers a real meal to be something with meat and potatoes. I know that my family all loves macaroni and cheese (not to mention the fact it is one of my favorite foods)–most of his family love it, my friends are huge fans, and it is one of the few foods some of the kids that will be there (who are very picky eaters) will eat.
Please help…drama and last minute wedding stress is killing me…I just need an objective opinion.