(Closed) Menu help…and maybe a little venting needed

posted 6 years ago in Food
Post # 3
4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

This is like Thanksgiving- you’re not going to please everyone. Keep the mac & cheese for the kids, and go with what you want. If someone else doesn’t eat a starch, it’s no big deal. The majority of vegetarians don’t eat fish, by the way, so you’ll want m&C for them.

Can you tell FMIL- “Please,this is causing too much stress for me this close to the wedding!”

Arguing about food is so not worth it!

Post # 4
2414 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I honestly like your menu and I don’t think it will be too complicated to keep the mac&cheese and the potatoes. Just let her know that half of the menu has to consider your culture and half of the menu has to satisfy her’s. Stand your ground!

Post # 5
2601 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Yes, it’s a party for you, but…you’re not doing the cooking? Sorry hon, but if you’re not doing the cooking, then there’s a limit to your input (to give you an idea, my Dad is a serious food snob/home chef. If he’s throwing a dinner party and I had the nerve to tell him to serve pigs in a blanket (that wasn’t some like, artisanal sausage in homemade puff-pastry version)? That’d be like asking Picasso to paint the house (in my dad’s mind)–ohhhhh the stare down I would get.  FMIL sounds like a woman who takes a lot of pride in her cooking. So I’m not saying your requests are unreasonable, but honey, to epicurians, particularly when they’re cooking for an audience (and half of that audience is hers) macaroni with velveeta is a serious offense ;)! 

Pick. Your. Battles. 

The mac n cheese recipe is from your family, so she SHOULD accomodate it. But then again, you can’t hold her at gunpoint and force her to make it so instead of trying to goad her or her co-worker into doing it, stand up and say, “Look, this is a family dish and it’s really important and I’d LOVE to make it for you!” And make it yourself (or have mom make it or whatever). Don’t tell me that she’s going to have a problem with the BRIDE making mac n cheese for her own shindig!

The dressings are easy–have them all available and people can choose. Dressing a salad for a bunch of guests (esp. if a buffet) is a bad idea anyway–it’ll get soggy fast. 

The potatoes are kind of a dicey thing. My family is Asian, so we’re all about the rice and rarely did potatoes growing up. I think that part of it is that to me, potatoes ARE more work than rice (because of course we have a rice cooker and those things are magic) and might seem that way if you’re just not accustomed to working with them. Think about that before you go forward with the request–my Mother-In-Law is NOT a rice woman and I would never, ever ask her to make rice instead of me (rice made in a pan with butter that comes out crunchy? Nevermind, I’ll do it) Again, I think this might be an issue that either you (or Fiance or someone from your family) steps up and volunteers to do or bring the potatoes–which is what you did and that’s probably the resolution. I respect that your Dad likes his things, but it seems like there will be plenty of stuff on the menu and besides, maybe he’ll try the rice and enjoy it! Part of the fun of a dinner party IS trying other people’s food–it’s one night in the end.



Post # 6
1659 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

It sounds like any guest at your wedding, regardless of ethnicity or preference, will be able to put together a plate to enjoy.

Personally, I think you have a lot of starch going on – I would consider corn to be a starch, and your salad doesn’t sound like it actually has a lot in the way of vegetables. Maybe cut the macaroni and cheese altogether, and add in a green vegetable that is mutually agreeable? 

40 individual baked potatoes might be difficult to do…would you cpotatoes mashed potatoes? From a prep and serving perspective, they would be a lot less labor intensive and time consuming.

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