Post # 1
My site has seasonal menus and won’t have a tasting until 3 weeks after I send out my invitations. Since I’m only having 50 people (25 couples), I figured it would be easy to call or email people and ask what they wanted after I make the selection. Now my Mom is concerned this is tacky. Has anyone done this or heard of anyone doing this?
Post # 3
I have not heard of this…but I only see it being an issue if you plan on having more than one entree choice. Otherwise I would just put something like “Please contact us at _____ if you have any dietary concerns.” to accommodate vegetarians or any food allergies.
Post # 4
i don’t think it is tacky for that many people. you could also just ask if anyone is a vegetarian on the rsvp, so at least you have those numbers up front
Post # 6
Yeah I wouldn’t make phone calls. Can you just put the main meat selection on the RSVP card (aka chicken or beef or vegetarian) but then decide the specific dishes at your tasting?
Post # 7
I think if it’s a small group it’s not that big of a deal. Might be a bit of a headache to you to have to have that conversation with every guest thought (I can imagine them asking “well what comes with that” etc).
Is there any why you can get some sort of sample menu from the caterer so at least you’d know if you’d be offering beef, chicken, fish or pasta?
Post # 8
We did this… We ordered our invites before we had our tasting, but knew that we were going to have some form of chicken and some form of beef – therefore on the invite we just put chicken or beef… if people had a question about the selection then they just called us. It worked out ok, and we haven’t had any problem with the selections. Hope that this helps.
Post # 9
I think @oneflute85‘s method would work very well and also spare you the time/effort of calling everyone.
Post # 10
We had to do this. We’re planning our wedding from across the country and won’t be back at our venue to do our tasting until a week prior to the actual wedding. We made some initial choices with our venue though — our entrees would be some sort of surf & turf, some sort of chicken, and some sort of veggie meal. Our guests made their selections on the RSVP card, and then we will fill in the exact details of our menu right before the wedding at our tasting. I think it will work out fine…
Post # 11
We were in the same boat so we had to be generic on our response card: beef, fish, vegetarian. Once we were able to make our actual menu selections we shared them in conversation with friends and family and some people made a change (e.g. I had a bridesmaid who didn’t select fish b/c she didn’t want salmon…when I told her it was crab stuffed halibut she didn’t want the steak anymore).
I think if you can include a generic selection on your response card it would be better than calling or emailing because even though it’s a small group, it’s still a wedding and it’s a formal event.
Post # 12
I was over ruled (FI agreed with Mom, so she loves him even more now!) We added Beef, Seafood and Vegetarian. I hope when we get to our tasting we like the beef, seafood and veg choices!