Post # 1
My husband has some pretty ugly furniture that he bought right before we started dating 3 years ago. We live in a small house and all of it is oversized for the space and not my style at all. When I moved in most of my furniture got put in storage and I’ve been slowing incoorperating my pieces into our home. Also, I’ve studied art for years and have a small collection of local artists. We’re night and day with agreement about art, so our walls are completely bare. This has become increasingly frusterating since I want to get the house ready for our baby that’s coming in March. What’s more frusterating is that when I mention that I want to do something, he’s nearly always against it. But then when I do something without discussing it with him first, he likes it. I don’t know if it’s the hormones but I’m staring at our uncomfortable beast of a sofa right now and I want nothing more than to take a chainsaw to it and burn it. I’m not going to, but a girl can dream…
Post # 3
That doesn’t sound fun. Maybe you could work out a compromise with a trial period? You get to bring in the pieces of your furniture and art that you want, and have it up for 1 month. Set a date to talk about it after the time limit, and anything he absolutly hates goes (with the understanding that the two of you will pick a new piece together to replace it), and the other things can stay. Some people just aren’t good at visualizing things and need to actually see it. (I had a boss like this. We did event design and she just couldn’t picture a space without actually moving around tables chairs etc. It took twice as long to set up a space and drove me crazy because I would look at the area when we first saw it and say we should do it like _____. Three hours of moving shit around later she would go “Oh you were right lets do it that way”. SOOOO aggrevating!)
Post # 4
If he likes it when you just do things without discussing it with him, then do that.
When we combined our households, we pretty evenly kept pieces from what each of us owned. So we kept his sofa and recliner, but brought in one of my chairs, coffee table and antique parlor table that had been my grandmother’s. We kept his table lamps, but added two of my floor lamps. Darling Husband didn’t have any artwork, so we bought some and used some of mine.
Since then we have replaced the sofa and recliner. Slowly it is startling to look less like a bachelor pad and more like a home.