(Closed) Merging households before a move

posted 3 years ago in Home
Post # 2
864 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Not that situation exactly (not military) but we had 2 households that we combined right before we got married.  He was coming from a 2-bed apartment and moving to my 1-bed condo.  All 623 sq. feet of it.

My part was easy – I hired a friend with an organizing business, took a week off of work, and organized the shit out of my place.  I got rid of SOOOO much stuff.  I made sure half the closets were empty for him, etc.

His part . . . not so easy.  We spent MANY, MANY hours purging stuff from his place, and many more hours packing.  He got rid of a lot, but we ended up getting a storage unit for about a year until he was finally ready to let that stuff go too.  

Once he moved in we had the movers take away some of my furniture and replace it with his (this was all planned beforehand obviously) and then it was just a matter of finding space for what was left.  It’s been almost 6 years and we’re still taking a pile of stuff to the Salvation Army a couple of times a year.  

My suggestion is to get both places as organized as possible starting NOW.  Talk about what you can get rid of, and get rid of as MUCH as you can.  Don’t waste time taking doubles of things to his place and THEN deciding what to keep.  Be ruthless.  

Post # 3
47289 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I wouldn’t wait until the last week to get rid of duplicates. If you are living apart, there may be some duplicates that you need to keep, but you can likely manage by being a little creative, e.g. no one needs two kettles. One of you can boil water in a pot or in the microwave for a few months.

Post # 4
972 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

So my experience worked the opposite way. Moving out of my bigger place into his place 6 weeks before both moving cross country. 

I definitely would move your stuff in or maybe see if they also move things from a storage area. Sometimes they will move a home and a storage site if arranged in advance. I definitely don’t think they will move from two residences though. So if they will load from a storage site maybe you could put some stuff in storage for now. But you may find it easier and less likely to have stuff get lost if it’s one load from one place…

I think for us, having our new home to set up is actually what made it easier to combine households. I understand if you’re concerned about weigh restrictions but if you don’t have the time, I wouldn’t stress about it too much. You already have a wedding and relocation to deal with. Tossing duplicates or downsizing doesn’t have to be another huge stress in a short week or anything for now if it’s too much.  I feel like it’s pretty easy to toss or donate extra pots and pans later on. Big items like whose bed or dressers or couch to keep would be something I’d decide as soon as possible so that you know what needs to be in position for the movers…

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