(Closed) Merging thank you card and christmas card?

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
677 posts
Busy bee

I’d have no issue with that

Post # 3
30400 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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breebee324 :  I don’t like the word “tacky”, but it does come across as lazy. Writing thank you notes isn’t as onerous a chore as some people make it out to be. Each of you can easily do 10 , every night as you relax after dinner. You will soon have them done if you stop using your busy life as a reason to avoid doing them.

Post # 4
2722 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Yeah, I have to agree with julies1949.  I’m not generally a stickler for etiquette, but I expect a thank you card in a timely manner and unless you were on a mission trip in a 3rd world country, there is no excuse for not getting thank you notes out within a few weeks or a month after the wedding.  These other weddings you stood up in did not take up all your time, so just own it.  You decided not to do the cards and now you want to cheap out and send a dual Christmas/thank you card.  It would get a huge side eye from me.

Post # 5
9416 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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julies1949 :  this. Every time I have a stack of thank you notes to get out I do 5-10 a day so it’s a more manageable task. 

Post # 6
1714 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2019

I don’t think that would be tacky at all. We are getting married in November of next year and I plan on merging our thank yous with christmas cards too. 

Post # 7
690 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

It is a nice idea, but personally I think you shoudl do 2 seperate cards.

A Holiday card is a nice way to connect with people and wish them a happy holidays. The thank you card should be to thank your guests not only for their gift, but for being part of your special day. 

If I had been to a wedding in the summer or early fall and got a combined thank you/christmas card, I would definitely think it was laziness on the part of the couple, that they couldnt be bothered to put the effort in to do them seperately. TBH I would probably be a little offended.

Not trying to shame you or come across as rude! I just think for something as important as a wedding, you should put in the extra effort to thank your guests appropriately.

Post # 8
2079 posts
Buzzing bee

I guess the thank you cards could be on a Christmas style card but they are already late so you better get to writing thank yous.  

Post # 9
1315 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2018 - UK

I think if the wedding had been shortly before Christmas, maybe November, then I would think a combination card would be fine. For a wedding in the summer though, getting a combination card would make me think the couple had realised they hadn’t done their thank you cards yet, and had bundled them together to save time.

Sorry bee, but I agree with the previous posters, this is a job which could and should have been fitted in sooner.

Post # 11
4784 posts
Honey bee

You have an entire long weekend to write out thank you cards. Just do it 

Post # 12
617 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I’m doing this, but it’s more just a thank you card with a “Merry Christmas and Happy New Year” on it as well.  We don’t send out Christmas cards, but I figured if they would be receiving our thank you cards in November we might as well add on a holiday wish.

Post # 13
666 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I think it’s ok to send them out at the same time in the same envelope, to save posting out twice. But if still write two separate cards. I think it comes across as lazy and a bit af an after thought  like merry Xmas oh by the way thanks for our wedding gift  

Post # 14
1599 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

Agree… do a picture with happy holidays then a separate thank you note in the same envelope

Post # 15
13922 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Thank you notes and holiday cards are for distinct purposes and should be sent separately. I would not combine them in the same envelope either. 

It would only highlight the lateness and in any case implies that either the holiday wishes or the thank you is an afterthought. 

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