Mermaid / Trumpet Dresses

• elderberry
• 3 years ago

shortandcute :  

It is about  body type really , not mere  size. If you are an hourglass shape , ie with a pronounced  waist , I think plus size doesn’t matter at  all. In fact mermaids etc can look far better than on a  straight up and down  build.

But if you have  (like me!) a  comparatively thickish waist and substantial stomach  , then no  , not our  silhouette at all !

Any style dress worn  too tight doesn’t look its best anyway 

• heatdisneybride
• 3 years ago

• Wedding: April 2019

It really just depends on your body type. If you have hourglass shape it can look great. I love how they look but I tend to carry my weight in my stomach and when I tried them on I couldn’t walk in them so they were off my list for that reason. If you haven’t tried on dresses yet just keep an open mind try on lots of styles and go from there. I picked out something completely different then what I wanted. Some stuff you won’t know if you like until you try it on. It’s hard to try to figure out whats going to look good if you have never tried it on. 

• ilovelift
• 3 years ago

No. Body shape or size doesn’t get to dictate what styles a person should wear or not wear. Plus size bodies don’t need to be hidden. Dresses don’t need to create the illusion of bodies being smaller than they are. You find a dress you love and feel beautiful in, it’s perfect! Tight or not. Hourglass or not.

• ilovelift
• 3 years ago

Look at this beautiful mermaid bride!

• catskillsinjune
• 3 years ago

• Wedding: June 2017

shortandcute :  is about body SHAPE, not size. IMO, fitted through the hip dresses look best on women who have a high hip-to-waist ratio (i.e. “hourglass” or “hippy” women) because it accentuates the curves. But if your waist is thick in comparison with your hips (you’re more straight up and down), then it doesn’t matter if you’re a size 2 or a 22 – i don’t think it’s flattering. 

One way to assess how hippy you are: take your measurements and look at bridal sizing charts. Where do your hips/waist fall on the chart? Same size? Hips are a larger size? Waist is a larger size? If your waist is your largest size, your probably more of a column than an hourglass. But if your waist/hips are the same size or your hips are bigger, you’re more of an hourglass. Check a couple different designers (as sizing varies). This isn’t fullproof, but it’s a decent indicator. 

• ImMrsSnow
• 3 years ago

• Wedding: June 2017

shortandcute :  

Size 20-22 Bride here (18 months ago during one of my fittings)

 

• claroquesi
• 3 years ago

ilovelift :  

“No. Body shape or size doesn’t get to dictate what styles a person should wear or not wear. Plus size bodies don’t need to be hidden. Dresses don’t need to create the illusion of bodies being smaller than they are.”

I disagree with your statement. It seems to me that you see comments regarding body shape as something of an attack or put down on plus size women. To acknowledge that every woman has a silhouette that works best for her, and that she feels comfortable wearing, is in fact, the best way to look great. And that holds true for all women, whether they are thin, plus size, petite, tall.

That doesn’t mean that we must see all traditional notions as irrefutable. For example, plus size women are traditionally advised against wearing big, bold and colorful prints, such as the ones the women below are wearing. And it works, and they look gorgeous, because the silhouette works with their body shape.

• ilovelift
• 3 years ago

claroquesi :  “It seems to me that you see comments regarding body shape as something of an attack or put down on plus size women. To acknowledge that every woman has a silhouette that works best for her, and that she feels comfortable wearing, is in fact, the best way to look great. And that holds true for all women, whether they are thin, plus size, petite, tall.”

I don’t think any talk of body shape or size is an attack on fat bodies. I think putting out the message – and thus perpetuating society’s message – that women should dress for their body types is harmful. Women should dress however they want.

Regarding your statement about every woman having a silhouette that works best for her, what does “works best” mean? Does it mean is most flattering? What is flattering if not minimizing what society has deemed problem areas and highlighting what’s considered socially desirable?

The best way to look great is to put on whatever makes you happy and whatever, yes, you feel comfortable in. It’s undeniable that everyone we encounter is going to see what we wear. However, we are not obligated to dress for anyone but ourselves, meaning we don’t have to consider if the clothing we wear is going to make our bodies look most appealing to other people.

• c7h8
• 3 years ago

I don’t think anyone disagrees with women wearing what makes them feel beautiful and comfortable. However, OP seemed to be asking genuine and constructive comments. 

• ilovelift
• 3 years ago

c7h8 :  Claroquesi did, in fact, say she disagrees with the idea that women should wear whatever they want regardless of body shape and size. Also, my comment was genuine and constructive. I truly believe she should wear whatever she wants; hence my reply that no, this style of dress isn’t too tight for plus-size women.

• c7h8
• 3 years ago

ilovelift :  Agreed that OP should wear exactly what she wants as long as she loves and feels confident in it.

However, she’s on here seeking opinions. I want to add some nuance. I totally understand the mindframe of women dressing for themself and themself only. But I think it’s also possible to internalize that viewpoint and still take into account wanting to personally look good by society’s “prescribed standards.” OP is seeking opinions because she not only wants to look good for herself, but she also wants to be seen as convetionally attractive on her wedding day.

She can wear whatever she wants, but there is a possibility that there may be more flattering styles that would look just as good or better on her. Just my 2 cents. 

• ilovelift
• 3 years ago

c7h8 :  You could be right about where the OP’s coming from, but that’s a lot to infer from a single sentence question. I simply answered the question presented in an honest way without any intention of being flippant. The posts that followed my original had nothing to do with the OP but were responses to someone else who responded directly to my original post.