(Closed) Merry Xmas! Old traditions… new traditions… how do you feel?

posted 5 years ago in Holidays
Post # 3
11693 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@goingtotherooftopoflove:  your stocking tradition is fun!

FH’s family always has take out fried chicken on Christmas Eve – completely weird to me but I’ve adopted that for him.

FH’s family also rips through presents in about 5 minutes, whereas my family made it more of an all day affair and we had to eat breakfast (a huge glorious spread of anything you can imagine) before we opened sotkcings or anything.  I’m working on this with FH, what we’ve been doing is stockings first (which cost WAYYYY more than $10 in my house) and then breakfast and then presents.

Post # 5
8576 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Me & fi will be doing making our own traditions next year [once we’re married].

My family used to do ALL kinds of traditions.. but since our family is basically too far spread apart [my grandparents had children 6+ years apart, and so did their children and so fourth.. nobody is really close due to the age gaps].

Our traditions were :

– christmas wrapping parties

– christmas eve dinner with the ENTIRE extended family at the grandparents house as well as extended family present exchanging

– christmas day dinner with the immediate/close family, immediate family present exchanging

– christmas cookies [mainly kolacky’s]

– gingerbread house making

– rice crispie making

– stockings [we would open them up xmas eve]

– presents from the immediate family on christmas morning

– after christmas “closeout” shopping

– christmas pickle ornament [spider for my mom]

– we’ve been known to do a secret santa as well

– everyone brings a dish to christmas dinner

Post # 6
196 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013


I grew up on a Christmas tree farm, so my SO has to deal with having a Christmas tree, even though his family never had one when he was growing up — they’re Buddhist, so they don’t really celebrate Christmas. Also, I’m used to lots of snow (the low today is 9 deg. F/-12 deg C in my hometown!) but now I’m living in California, so it’s 66 deg F/19 C today! Weird… I miss the snow, and sledding! 

The biggest change is not being with family. Christmas was kind of big deal in mine… but one of my grandmother’s is deceased now, my other lives across the country, my parents live a 9 hr drive away (my brother is 10 hrs), and my two sisters are scattered across the US. My husband is changing jobs so he couldn’t get time off for us to go visit my parents in Las Vegas — and my SO’s parents and sisters decided to take a Christmas vacation in Las Vegas! So, we’re all alone… not a big deal for him because, like I said, his family never really celebrated Christmas! The hardest part is knowing my grandmother is going to be alone on Christmas Eve and Christmas. It breaks my heart… especially since I have an aunt and two cousins that live within driving distance, and they haven’t stopped by or even called. (I really don’t understand people sometimes!)

As for food… we’re starting our own tradition! Christmas day he wants to get Chinese food, and I’m on board. I love A Christmas Story, and then I don’t have to cook. πŸ™‚ Since there’s only two of us, no use cooking a whole turkey or a huge ham or anything, and we’re both on diets, so no cookies or pie for us.

Post # 7
1896 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We load up on snacks and put Christmas songs on the radio then drive around the neighborhoods that are all decked out and look at the Christmas lights.  My FIs family grew up going to see some big movie that opened on Christmas Day so that’s what we do now (one year it was War Horse, this year it’s Walter Mitty).

Post # 8
5064 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

@goingtotherooftopoflove:  first off I’m sorry for your loss. I lost my beloved nan 3 years ago. Loads of hugs to you. 

Traditions: we have some, we do stockings too! So fun. We also open one present on Christmas Eve. My Fiance is currently watching his present, he got Man of Steel. I got a make up mirror. Since I met him I’m turning into a girly girl. 

Merry Christmas 

Post # 9
1105 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My Nana died this year too and she was the matriarch of the family too… not too sure how much longer our family christmas’s will hold together.


Not that I’m worried about that because I don’t really enjoy christmas at my family’s… we have quite a few ‘bad eggs’ in the  family and if I went the entire day without a single hurtful jibe, it would be a miracle. Thank god every 2nd year we now travel to Perth to be with DH’s family and those are amazing πŸ™‚


I started a new tradition this year, we are holding Christmas Eve dinner every year and only my parents and sister and her partner (and our future children) will be invited. This way I have something to actually look forward to about Christmas, one non-drama day surrounded by people who love us unconditionally, which is the way it should be!

Post # 10
1222 posts
Bumble bee

SO and I have not had the chance yet to make our own traditions. Really, the only traditions my family has kept consistently are: 

-Choosing a new ornamemt for the tree every year. Some people have trees with just balls of one or two colors, but we have a very odd collection, from stars to polar bears to poinsettas and angel wings and birds and (of course) the more traditional balls. I love it. Actually, one of the only things I want when my grandfather passes are some of his and my grandmother’s ornamemts. They used to have one that chirped like a bird and for years I actually believed there was a bird in their tree. It didn’t seem so outlandish considering my grandmother would feed ANYTHING that showed up on her door step, from stray dogs and cats to squirrels to possums and raccoons. 

-Also, every year on Christmas I get a new nutcracker. It’s my only present marked “from Santa.” The tradition originated when I was about three and a nutcracker was the first thing I ever asked for for Christmas. I got one that played music, then a few years later my grandparents bought me one, and later my dad bought me one (or two until I was caught up from the years I didn’t get one) every year. I have them in sizes from two feet tall to three inches, from teddy bears to mice, outfits ranging from kings to military to tuxes to sequins. I have a nice little collection now. 

Post # 11
1270 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1994

I’ve been spending the holidays with my husband and his family ever since we met. Christmas eve we all eat dinner together, and those interested attend evening mass. Then after mass is presents. I grew up opening all the presents on Christmas morning, but his family does it differently. His family opens all the gifts from one another on the night of Christmas Eve, and the gifts from ‘Santa’ as well as the stockings are opened the following morning (Christmas morning).


Post # 12
6573 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Growing up, Christmas was a big deal. My mom really went all out. After their divorce, once I was in HS, I lived with my dad/stepmom. They’re into Christmas but not huge gift givers (where as my mom always went  way over the top). I had a little sister and they went all out for her, so it was fun to see that (she was much much younger than me).

Once Darling Husband and I started dating, the first few years we’d spend Christmas seperate. He’d go home to his family, and I’d stay with mine. After a few years we started always going to his family for Christmas. His mom is like mine was, going all out and it’s generally just a blast. That being said, it’s been 10 years of driving the 6+ hours to spend it with his family. Now that we’re married, I want to start celebrating in our own home – and I’m tired of the stress and hassle of traveling for the holidays. We told his mom, no more. From here on out we are trading holidays. If they want to see us next year, they have to come to our house.

We’re bucking the family tradition and I’m sure things will change. His sister most likely won’t want to come to us, because her Boyfriend or Best Friend has kids. All that being said, my parents will be thrilled to have us home for Christmas.

Post # 14
275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I strugged  this year with this(and got some good advice here)My parents are both gone and my Fiance has a very “hands off” kind of family-


Our traditions, which started this year:


Homemade lasagna for Christmas Eve dinner(a throwback of when I would make this for my parents and was the last meal we ate together)


Monumental Ornaments: decorate ornaments of something we did as a couple this year(I did our engagementand camping trip and he did our trip to D.C., our new dog and our boating fun)


We listened to Christmas carols during dinner and ornaments. Exchanged gifts on Christmas eve after watching Rudolph.


Went to midnight mass.


Today is traditionally quiet. We are going to his mom’s for dinner.


Post # 15
3204 posts
Sugar bee

I think traditions are wonderful. My Darling Husband asked me whether I thought they were important (my family has a lot, and not just for xmas), and I said I think they are very important because I feel like those are the ways I define being part of my family. Also, since I gave up my name, it is important for me to hold on to parts of my identity. 

My side of the family always has BLT sandwiches on Christmas morning and plays the Christmas pickle ornament game. 

My husband’s side of the family only has one tradition: to open one present on christmas eve. We will continue this, but this year we didn’t really do a lot of presents, so we didn’t do that cause we only had one present each!

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