(Closed) Messing up… Anyone else?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How often do you get upset/mad at your FI?
    Every day, unfortunately... Still no big deal... : (3 votes)
    4 %
    Almost every day, now that I think about it : (2 votes)
    2 %
    Sometimes : (50 votes)
    60 %
    Almost never : (24 votes)
    29 %
    Never! : (3 votes)
    4 %
    Other : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Sorry you had a bad weekend! Hope it blows over soon!

    We bicker a lot, which is different than fighting. Sometimes I think guys like to push our buttons just because they can.  We do get into bigger fights about once every couple months, so I put “sometimes”.

     

    Post # 4
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    4275 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Not very often and we do not get into huge blowouts. It is mainly just bickering about something stupid.

    Post # 5
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    5883 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    How big a mess up are we talking? Put dishes in the dishwasher “the wrong way” mess up or calling you a big fat pig?

    Post # 6
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    9550 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Yeah. I have to work hard to not nag my guy over every little thing. There are some things that drive me nuts! we’ve been living in our house together for almost a year and he still doesn’t know where stuff is. Even stuff I made him decde where it was going when we moved in! But I just try to remind myself what’s important in the grand scheme of things…

    Post # 7
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    3053 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    I voted almost never because when I get annoyed with my SO it’s usually just that: annoyed or frustrated for about 30 seconds then it’s over. She rarely does anything that full on upsets me or makes me angry. Mostly just a bit of typical bickering, I’m learning that when I get pissed because of her tone, it’s never intentional on her part. She is kind of rude (I just call it attitude) with her tone at some point everyday but no matter how much I point it out it doesn’t change & I know it’s completely unintentional so I am learning to ignore it.

    Post # 8
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    6015 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Meh I think we’re reversed.  He’s the anal one and i’m a little bit careless.  I got a lecture today about spray painting in the grass(which is getting cut tomorrow), how the power steering fluid last night practically gushed out of my car last night, if i drove the car properly it wouldn’t happen and it left a stain on the driveway.  They say you marry the person that is most like the parent you had the most conflict with … I married my mom.  lol …… I just roll my eyes and walk off and he comes later saying he’s sorry he lectures he’s working on it lol. 

    Post # 9
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    12248 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Little stuff (I want to cuddle and he doesn’t) most days. Big stuff (him ignoring V-Day even though he KNOWS it’s important to me) is VERY rare… Maybe twice a year?

    Post # 10
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    1719 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I voted, “almost never”.  I get annoyed with Darling Husband about things but nothing major.

    @HisIrishPrincess:  Our relationship is the same as yours.   Darling Husband is anal retentive; and, I don’t like to sweat the small stuff.  I have moments where I think, “Ah, crap! I married my mom.”  lol

    Post # 11
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    2183 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

    We’ve been having a tough couple of months, to be honest. We just made it two weeks with no spats… it ended last night with a little one, but we were able to keep it contained.

    Normally when this happens, it’s easy to pinpoint the cause… like there’s some stressful external thing that we’re taking out on each other.

    I try to do something small and special to signal that I’m waving the white flag. None of our fights really matter anyway because at the end of the day, we’re still us and we’re still happy together.

    Try to take a step back and breathe.

    Post # 12
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Oh hun, youre not alone.

    I am on my PMS and also fighing a head cold. Yesterday I came home from work, made dinner and wanted to lay down for 30 minutes before going to night class. Well i fell asleep and my alarm didn’t ring. He didn’t wake me up till past my class starting time which i didn’t feel well and decided i wont go (my head was hurting and my ears were plugged) He didn’t even ask how i was feeling or if he could get me anything. Instead he went to meet his friend leaving his two kids (9 and 12) at home for 3 hours while i was upstairs trying to sleep. They ofcourse always scream bloody murder and no sleep 🙁 When he came back… still nothing, like no one cared that i was sick.

    But when they are sick i am to wait hand and foot for them! 🙁

    So today he felt bad and wanted to bring me stuff which at this point I said: I’ll take care of myself, thank you… so now he is all pissy with me. Well I am too

    Post # 13
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    1211 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    It really depends! Sometimes we have bad weeks where I’m pissed at him for a week straight…other times I can go 6 months without being upset with him. 

    Post # 14
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    2638 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2006

    Honestly, never. My husband is very considerate and such a hard worker, I don’t notice if he’s doing something not quite to my liking . . . and living-wise/roommate wise, we are so extremely compatible that there isn’t much to complain about.

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