(Closed) Met a guy on my bachelorette party

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 47
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Any guy who gives his number to a girl he knows is out on her bachelorette party, and flirts with her and gets touchy freely with her, is nothing you want in a man. He’s a horn dog and you were drunk so of course it was fun to get the attention, but you’d be insane to use this encounter as anything more than a funny story to tell later. If your relationship with your Fi isn’t what you want it to be, then try to fix it before doing anything stupid.

Post # 48
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Goinganon2013:  I was meant to meet him as a last goodbye to my single life.

huh?  Is that what you call having an Fiance.  Sorry but B-parties aren’t about single life unless you’re going into a blind arranged marriage and then you probably would not be having a b-party.

Maybe Fiance is not the guy for you, but I highly doubt club guy is either.  Seems more like he was put up to it or somehting to get the batchelorette to cheat on her Fiance.

You need to communicate in a relationship and tell him what pleases you.  If he stops doing it, remind him.  

That passionate mystery and butterfies will always fade, even with club guy.  No.  Most definitely with club guy.

So you have a bit of soul searching to do I figure.


Post # 49
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I was meant to meet him as a last goodbye to my single life.

 

If your thinking this way (see abve)  maybe you should see this as a test of faithfulness to your Fiance.  If you have such strong feelings towards another man,  maybe you should step back from your engamgent an re-evaluate your current relationship.    I dont know what kind of understanding  you and Fiance have, where your Fiance would be ok with letting another man put their hands on you or for you to sit on another mans lap.  To each their own, I guess  But I would definitly sit down with your Fiance and figure out if marriage is really what you 2 need right now or if you guys need to postpone the wedding and work on your relationship. 

 

If my Fiance found out i let another man touch me and I sat on his lap, he would be done but again thats just us and our relationship, I hope you can figure this out for both you and your Fiance.  I couldnt imagine the confusion you must be going through but just make sure getting married to your Fiance is exactly what you want to do before you do it.   Good luck to you 🙂

Post # 50
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Agreeing with PP, you know nothing about this man. He has mystery and of course that’s alluring but if you knew him on the same level that you know your Fiance you’d find something wrong with him.

Post # 51
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I don’t know if you’ve seen the movie Tyler Perry, “Temptation, but ur post sounds so similar to the movie. If you haven’t see it, please look at it!

Post # 52
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Busy bee

After your man did go and toss you and take you, did you give him positive feedback after? Not like “Well I was really into it and made all the noises to let him KNOW I liked it.” But a littler “Holy chalupas ((HusbandToBe.)) last night was drop dead amazing. I don’t know what came over us, but you were such a freaking STUD in there. Seriously, I woke up sore in ALL the right places. I love you so damn much.”

 

It’s important to tell them when you like something, just as much as it is important for them to give you positive feedback. Particularly as it sounds like he’s going out of his sexual comfort zone for you, it’s important that you let him know it’s all worth it.

Post # 53
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Goinganon2013:  Fantasy is always better than reality. Spend a day in his life and you will find 2394729384937 flaws he has, that your soon-to-be-husband does not. 

I think the lovely ladies here already covered everything, but to summarize: Snap out of it. Life is not a romance novel. 

EDIT: Your yeast infection wouldn’t go away by just having sex with this guy would it? So the no-sex-due-to-YI would still stand with him as well. 

Post # 54
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Disney

@Goinganon2013:  If sex is an issue in your relationship there are bigger issues at play. If something like this makes you think like this there are bigger issues at play. This guy at the club doesnt respect you either.

Sorry but I know from personal experience sex maybe important but if you have what you need emotionally its not a big deal if you have far less sex than you think is normal. Intimacy and sex are two totally different things.

Post # 56
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

May I ask how old you are? I remember feeling this way after a night out… when I was in my very early twenties and TOTALLY not mature enough to be getting married. It’s not that it’s bad. It’s part of learning who you are, what you want, what/who you like, experiencing the spark of something new. But as you get more mature, you start to see that type of thing for what it is and don’t really yearn for it anymore.

 

Post # 57
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Greenbrier Country Club

@Nona99:  +1 <This

@This Time Round:  +1 <and this

If you want more spunk in your relationship, make it happen.

Post # 58
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166 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

“that guy could be playing a game to see if he can get a girl to leave his fiance for him.”

@SaraP2012:  that’s exactly what I thought.  He had a bet with his friends.

Post # 59
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Buzzing bee

@OldMrsMcDonald:  “You’re not ready to get married if you have strong feelings for a guy you met in a club, got drunk with, danced and let grope you

+1,000.

Post # 60
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

it could just be the wedding stress and your subcouncious is trying to find reasons like a random guy is all you want…

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