(Closed) Met a guy on my bachelorette party

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 122
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2936 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@cmbr:  +1

that is a bit inappropriate.

Post # 123
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979 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Goinganon2013:  What you’re feeling is the initial attraction, infautation, lust. In all reality, this man is not everything you want. Say for instance, you left your fi for this guy. I guarantee you in 2 years you those infatuation feelings would be gone, and you would be back to square one. If sex with fi is not good, make it good. I can suggest you read, The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. It’s a great book about relationships, and it will totally explain to you what just happened. If will also helo you identify the weak areas in your relationship,  and work on those. Good luck.

Post # 124
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2344 posts
Buzzing bee

@Goinganon2013:  I think you’re letting your sexual desires cloud your better judgement. I think you should take it for what it was, a one time thing and move on. 

Post # 125
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608 posts
Busy bee

Reading your note tells me two things…  1) you aren’t in a committed relationship with the man that you are about to marry.  If you were you wouldn’t  be thinking that allowing others into your intimacy was ok.  2) You may have friends that realize that you are on shaky ground when it comes to you being marriage ready or they are immature and not ready for marriage themselves and therefore saw nothing wrong with your actions.  Marriage is a serious lifelong commitment.  The marriages that last are relationships that honor and respect the person you are committed to.  Engagement is the step between having full freedom to do what you want and marriage… and if you realize that you aren’t really committed this is the time to step out.  

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