(Closed) Met with our caterer this week. Not happy.

posted 5 years ago in Food
Post # 3
1251 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@neetaclaw11:  I’ll be honest – not sure how she would have won awards for her food if that is the sort of stuff she is producing – a range of dips, ham and cheese sangas and sausage and cheese pastries? There is nothing wrong with that sort of food and I would eat it at an event for afternoon tea but honestly it doesn’t sound award winning or ‘special’ enough to warrant her high and mighty attitude to you!

My general attitude to vendors is that I don’t care if they are the most well reviewed people on the planet – if they can’t respond to an inquiry from me within an acceptable timeframe then I’m not really interested in doing business with them.  I guess you have to weigh up whether the pros of being able to BYOB etc. outweigh the sucky attitude of the caterer. How much deposit have you paid for the venue already?

Post # 5
1319 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - NH

I’m not in love with the choices for that price as well.  Dips and such are generally crowd friendly though, but something with more of a wow factor would be nice.


Post # 7
1319 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - NH

I would just ask her what your other options are.  Spanakopia would be nice!  Do you have apps that you’d love to have?  I’d just bring up a menu of options you love but that aren’t very hard to make incase her skill set really isn’t there.  Crostinis with different toppings (olive/hummus, date/walnut/goat cheese, etc.) might be a way to get more variety in too.

Post # 8
1777 posts
Buzzing bee

I understand your concerns.  At this venue, it seems like you’re being asked to trade off BYOB vs. catering.  The food proposed sounds OK, but not award-winning.  Since your families are big in to good food, and have people who are good cooks (let alone chefs) the bar is usually a bit higher.

Do you think your guests would be happier with more booze or fancier food?  Maybe that would help you decide whether or not you should keep looking.

Post # 9
3688 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’d ditch that menu and try to start over with her.

Post # 10
6741 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I would call the B&B and complain! They’re forcing you to go with this caterer and she’s not up to par with your expectations, she’s rude, and she doesn’t reply promptly. Tell them you don’t want to work with her and you are considering leaving unless they can do something – let you use another caterer, set up another tasting and tell her to check her attitude at the door, refund your deposit, etc. I feel like this is 100% their responsibility if they’re going to require a certain caterer!

Post # 11
1231 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

That is not an impressive menu. This sounds stressful, and you sound stressed and this will be reflected in your correspondence with them.  What does your Fiance think?  Does he just want to keep your current menu or go with something new?

Post # 12
9916 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@futuremrsk18:  +1  That’s a great idea.  I know that while planning our wedding I felt as though I had to…cater to the caterer.  But then I realized — hey, we are paying him a bunch of money to do this RIGHT!  I put my foot down, and got what we wanted (which was a formal contract, so it wasn’t a food issue, but still).


Post # 13
11271 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@neetaclaw11:  good food was a priority for us.  i think i would ask this caterer to give you more options b/c the ones listed are just ok, definitely not award winning.  can you maybe give her suggestions of what you would like and then she can prepare them?

Post # 14
8576 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

This is honestly the EXACT reason I didn’t use a bed & breakfast.

I found a gorgeous bed & breakfast we were going to have our wedding at.. but the owners were the ONLY caterer they allowed.

Their options.. were horrible. Seriously. Hotdogs. Pizza. Hamburgers. And at $17 a plate on top of it.

The BEST item they had, which wasn’t all that great, was chicken parmesan.

I ran away from that place.

I want my guests to enjoy a GREAT meal, rather than just an OK one.

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