- 7 years ago
- Wedding: December 2008
My husband is American-Mexican and I am German. We are already married and wanna start planning the reception but I am not in the mood anymore. His family asked us to often when we are marrying (They don’t know that we are already). And then they start planning our wedding. My hubby asked if they can sponsor us. I didn’t ask my family because they already pay for the flights and hotel when they are coming.
The thing is his family wanna have only mexican food, mexican music, mexican etc. Meaning, a mexican wedding. I told my husband I don’t like it because I am not mexican and we also have friends from different countries. His answer was that I must get use to it because they are sponsoring us. I was pissed. My parents would sponsor us to if they wouldn’t have to pay the flights.
And I think it is really ignorant and disrespectful to think that it is what I want and to ignore that I am from a different background.
They already have a DJ who only speaks Spanish and they wanna have the reception in Spanish because his family doesn’t speak English at all. Also they live here more then 30 years.
So now they start asking me everytime I see them why I still don’t speak Spanish. That is so disrespectful. Of course I wanna learn Spanish but not if I have inlaws who think everyone must compromise for them or copy to fit in their culture.
I am not in the mood to have a reception at all anymore. I just wanna have a reception in Germany and that’s it.
How can I explain to my husband and inlaws that I wanna have a different wedding without offending them?
We also have the problem that everybody invites themselves and I don’t see why I should pay for everyone also I never saw them in my life and I never will see them again. Especially if they are only friends of friends of my inlaws.