Post # 1
Hi guys. I’m from the US and my Fiance is first-generation Mexican. He and I want to include aspects of Mexican tradition in our ceremony and reception. He told me about a “lasso” or white rope that gets draped over our heads at some point during the ceremony, and about a small ornate box of coins that he’s supposed to present to me. Can anyone explain in detail the meaning and symbolism of these? Who drapes the rope and when during the ceremony? When does the box thing happen – and what’s that box called?
And if anyone knows about some other Mexican traditions related to the Catholic wedding or the reception, please please give me some hints! Is there anything I should absolutely be sure to do at the reception, for example?
Thanks to anyone who can help!
Post # 3
THe Laso is the life long bond between the bride and the groom… it is a rope draped on the two of you in a figure eight. It is usually satin with flowers wrapped around it. The coins are basically saying that he promices to be a good provider for you and your kids. They also become family heirlooms. There are usually 13 coins that represent Christ and his 12 apostles. These traditions are very beautiful and will be amazing when incorprated in your ceremony! Good Luck!!!
Post # 4
As far as who drapes the lazo over you guys, that’s a role that you choose someone for. We’re choosing our Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man to handle that for us, for example.
Some brides also present a small bouquet to the statue of the Virgin Mary during the mass, and (according to my momma) you can choose someone to bring up the bouquet to you.
For the coins, you can choose to exchange them to each other, or have him give them to you. I’m more for the former than the latter, in my opinion 🙂
Good luck! I’m sure you’ll be fine!
Post # 5
My husband is Mexican and I’m a mix of a lot of things. Although his family is Catholic, he isn’t practicing and I’m Protestant so we used a few Mexican traditions to honor his family. My husband and I incorporated the coins into our wedding ceremony, they are called arras. The sites below explain it much better than I can 🙂 Instead of having someone come up and give them to the minister during the service, we had them sitting on the table with our unity candle. After we lit the unity candle, the minister blessed them and then handed the box to my husband and we followed the rest of the tradition. I also carried a rosary wrapped in my bouquet that his mother had given me. Good luck on your wedding! 🙂
Post # 6
Here is what I found to better explain what they are for and what they symbolize!!
Lasso – As part of the ceremony to symbolize unity, a large loop of rosary beads or a lasso (cord) is placed in a figure eight shape around the necks of the couple after they have exchanged their vows. It also is beautiful when made of entwined orange blossoms (which symbolize fertility and happiness). A double rosary lasso may also be given by one set of the parents and may be blessed with holy water three times in honor of the trinity.
A special person/couple places the lasso around the shoulders of the bride and groom, groom’s shoulder’s first. The lasso may also be tied around their wrists. The couple wears the lasso throughout the remainder of the service. (The loop is symbolic of their love which should bind the couple together everyday as they equally share the responsibility of marriage for the rest of their lives.)
At the end of the ceremony, the lasso is removed by either the couple which placed the lasso on the couple, or the priest. The lasso is given to the Bride as a memento of her becoming the mistress of the groom’s heart and home.
The Thirteen Coins – The groom gives the bride thirsteen gold coins as a symbol of his unquestionable trust and confidence. He pledges that he places all of his goods into her care and safekeeping. Acceptance by the bride means taking that trust and confidence unconditionally with total dedication and prudence.
The custom of the coins originated in Spain. Thirsteen gold coins (arras) are given to the bride by the bridegroom, signifying he will support her. Often presented in ornate boxes or gift trays, this represents the brides dowry and holds good wishes for prosperity. These coins become a part of their family heirloom.
The number 12 represents Christ and his 12 apostles. The coins are presented to the priest by a friend or relative (usually the purchaser). The priest then blesses the coins and hands them to the bride who places them in the groom’s cupped hands at the beginning of the ceremony. The coins are then placed on a tray and handed to an assistant to be held until later in the ceremony. Near the end of the ceremony the box and coins are given to the priest who places the coins in the box and hands them to the groom.
The groom will then pour the coins into the bride’s cupped hands and places the box on top. This represent his giving her control as his mistress of all his worldly goods. (Sometimes their hands are tied with a ribbon for this portion of the ceremony.)
Post # 7
Great information! Thanks everyone. I will check out those websites too. I’m thinking I should put a little explanation in the wedding program for the guests who aren’t familiar with Mexican tradition, so they know what’s going on.
Post # 8
I’m Mexican and my Fiance is not, but I’m definately doing the laso and having a marichi at our wedding ofr the coktail reception. Also, one of my favors that guests take as they leave are Mexican wedding cookies. I’m putting three in to a lil bag. Mexican weddding cookies are a powder cookie; very yummy. You can find them at most Mexican bakeries; usually 3 for a $1!!
Post # 9
we’re both mexican-american but our mexican sides carry different traditions..his side has never done the vivora when i heard that i was mortified! lol not really but yes we’re trying to figure out how to do it still..mexicans just get there get there food eat festivities start and the drinking has already begun! …so our traditions combined mainly my mexican side…la vivora, the groom toss in the air after the vivora…thats my dads side my moms side strip him down to his boxers then the bride dresses him…that we wont be doing… el valz del dollar, the bouquet and garter toss! the brindis aND cutting of the cake…
Post # 10
When I got engaged last year my dad immidiately asked who the padrinos for misa, biblia & rosario, arras, and lasso were going to be. I guess those are the most important one’s he thought of. The church where you will get married at will let you know what order they are going to be presented. Oh also flowers presented to the Virgin Mary are a traditional thing done at the ceremony
Post # 11
We did a coin ceremony during our wedding. I am Spanish. My mom gave us the 13 pesetas from her own wedding and we kept them in an antique silver mesh coin purse that belonged to her great-grandmother.
It was really neat! The officiant explained a little bit about the tradition before we started so everyone would know what was going on.