Post # 16
I am curious – why does no Mexico wedding = having a traditional wedding? I guess I don’t understand what = traditional wedding to you. You can have as untraditional of a wedding as you want at home (provided you are a good host to your guests which should always be true in any circumstance). Likewise, if you want a destination wedding there are thousands of places you could have one not in or near a Zika hotzone.
So if it is Mexico specifically that is most important to you, be ok with people not coming.
If it’s traveling in general that most appeals to you, pick a new place without Zika and still be ok with some people not coming because they don’t want to or can’t travel.
If it’s the people who are most important and traveling would be a hardship for them, then start thinking creatively about how to have an untraditional wedding at home.
Post # 17
When having a destination wedding of any kind, you run the risk of people not coming for any slew of reasons. Everyone has a different comfort level for travel, especially those who are naturally worrisome or don’t travel internationally very often. I know plenty of people who consider Mexico a “no travel area” even prior to Zika because they think it’s “too dangerous”.
For me, I’m choosing to continue living my life. I am TTC and still going to Mexico in February. Likewise, I was in Costa Rica (from the beach to the rainforest and back to the beach) last February a few months prior to starting TTC. I’m sure people side-eyed me (although we haven’t exactly shared our TTC plans with anyone outside of a couple close friends) because I’m of child-bearing age and traveling internationally. My DH has a job that routinely keeps him traveling throughout Central America – so we basically have no choice than to press forward with life. If we delayed TTC based on the CDC suggestions we would literally never have a child. My SIL just had her first baby, and her DH is in the same profession as mine….they birthed a healthy baby (as have every other person we know in the same field).
I’m not a doctor, and I’m the first person who takes what the doctor says seriously, but Zika is just one area that I’m choosing to go make my own informed decision on.
Post # 18
This is hard! I am in a similar scenario, except I am the Maid/Matron of Honor in a desination wedding this October. Husband and I had previously spoke about “seeing what happens” in April this year. My gf got engaged middle of last year, I accepted the Maid/Matron of Honor position and Husband and I decided to put the baby thing on hold until after her wedding. Life had other plans and although we were still using protection, have recently found out we are expecting, due in early August. We are going to talk to our doctor and my gf but its a tough spot.
What about having the wedding in another location?
Post # 19
I don’t blame your friends. Yes, maybe many areas aren’t loaded with mosquitos, and the risk of getting Zika and it affecting a pregnancy is probably very low. However, there IS a risk, and as someone who is recently pregnant (and been TTC for awhil now), I would decline as well, just because I know I wouldn’t be able to live with myself if I choose to attend a wedding and something terrible happened. That is kind of the risk you take with a destination wedding. Besides Zika, many have other travel fears, or simply can’t afford it. You have to decide- it a wedding in Mexico more important or a wedding were more people can easily attend.
Post # 20
I am having a destination wedding in Puerto Vallarta this coming October, and my fiancé and I will be ttc shortly after the wedding. As far as I am aware, there have been no confirmed cases in Puerto Vallarta, and most, if not all, of the confirmed cases have not been in the tourist areas.
My fiancé’s parents own a second home in Puerto Vallarta, and they said I should have no reservations about planning a wedding. The resorts spray for mosquitos, and you don’t really see them around. Believe me, his parents desperately want grand babies, and they would not have pushed for a wedding in Mexico if they felt Zika was a huge concern.
I understand that most people probably don’t share our opinions. That being said, we are in our mid 30s, so most of our friends are already done having kids. I would not be the least bit offended if someone didn’t want to come due to Zika concerns, but for me, I am not super worried. I will take the proper precautions, and not stray from the resort and I’m sure I’ll be fine.
Post # 21
I think you have to decide what is more important to you – a wedding in Mexico or having your friends who may TTC soon attend. There is nothing wrong with either decision, but I absolutely would not pressure your guests to attend a destination wedding – for Zika or any other reason.
Post # 22
think of some alternatives that makes you happy as well, it doesn’t have to be traditional just because you move it from Mexico to somewhere zika safe? Once you have a valid alternative in your mind that would work financially if you forsake the $1,500 then speak to those friends/family who you feel you can’t get married without, can they commit to attend if you move the wedding? You don’t know that they would as there could be other problems in the way that they’re hiding by blaming zika as a reason not to attend.
If not enough of the declines turn to yes even if you move the wedding then just stick to Mexico and have your dream, just with less guests (that should make it cheaper too, so it’s not all bad).
Post # 23
If you are losing only $1500.. I would cancel and do an small local wedding. The medical community is still unsure about how long you should wait really cause there is evidence that it stays in men indefinatelly… and women should be okay in about 6 months.. but I heard of some new evidence that says that the virus may be in women indefinatelly as well (possibly) so we decided to take 0 chances and not going anywhere near Zika for our honeymoon (and I am so happy we didnt go for a Destination Wedding (that was the initial idea, a few months before the whole Zika outbreak happened. Boy, we were sooo relieved that we decided to not do a Destination Wedding.
Post # 24
Well you just gotta decide if you’d rather have your people or your location. You could always get married local and then honeymoon in Mexico. Or do a domestic destination wedding- somewhere in the states.
Im going to Mexico in 4 days and am TTC this summer. Not worried in the slightest.
Post # 25
This is the reason why planning a Caribbean/Latin America wedding is out for me. I’d hate for there to be more ‘no’ RSVPs than usual because of zika. As a healthcare provider I totally understand and would decline if it were me as well!