Post # 16
Just throwing this out there, but a person with a very modest microscope set up can see something as small as sperm in a semen sample. (Ok scope with an oil immersion lens worked for us)
I used my scope to keep tabs on how my husband’s vasectomy was progressing. I wouldn’t bet a pregnancy/pregnancy prevention on it, but I used it to supplement the official lab work we did.
With low numbers it would be like a needle in a haystack, but just thought I would let people know it is an extra option that people can look at at home.
Post # 17
I don’t know if this counts as a success story given that you have mentioned you don’t want to use a donor, but I have a 6 month old son from donor IUI. My husband had 0 sperm in two SA’s. His issue was due to medication required as a teenager, so we weren’t surprised (though of course had hoped for the best…) and had always kinda known it could be an issue, but we both just assumed it would be fine. We got tested before even trying due to a current med my husband was on so we got to get everything rolling early on. For us, they did the SA’s and then some blood work to check hormone levels – which apparently tells you if it’s likely a physical blockage or a lack of actual sperm production. For him, given his history and blood work they didn’t bother trying the TESE, but as other people have mentioned that can definitely work in combination with IVF, so hopefully you are able to go that route!
I just wanted to pop in and share that my husband loves our son as much as me, and that honestly it’s something that I don’t think either of us think about/remember most of the time. For me, the important part was to get to carry a child and give birth – I think I would have been fine with donor eggs too is what I mean – and my husband wanted children and donor IUI was by far the cheapest, quickest method. When we first got the news I was heartbroken, and took a while to even consider what path we might take to have a family, but we both came around to the idea of using a donor and my son is fantastic and as I said it is a lot less weird than I thought it would be. So I’d just like to suggest that you don’t rule out a donor when the news is still fresh and things are uncertain.
I really hope things work out for you and you are able to have a family in the way you hope 🙂
Post # 19
- Wedding: April 29th, 2016
Scarlett11 : Thank you. I’m not hounding him to do anything. I can’t imagine how he must feel and he really is hiding it well because I can always tell when he’s deeply upset about something.
hollyberry4 : Thank you. I don’t know the cause, that’s what I’m waiting on… He’s done an ultrasound, blood work, and now this second SA. I imagine they would have known if it were a varicocele from the physical exam? Everything looked normal with that. Donor sperm is not an option.
LilliV : I’ve been waiting for the results since before Christmas so it’s hard to be patient. I’m not opposed to fertility treatment at all, it’s just not something I ever thought we’d need so I’m trying to wrap my mind around it. I definitely want to carry my own children who are genetically mine and my husband’s.
Post # 20
- Wedding: April 29th, 2016
beethrowawayname : I’ve seen some women doing that in one of the TTC groups I belong to but I’ll just trust the doctor for now.
1989anonbee : I’m glad that everything worked out for you taking the donor route! I just can’t imagine my child being half of someone other than my husband, or half a stranger if that makes sense. I look at my niece, who never saw my sister and her father as a couple and grew up with her father living hours away with little exposure to him, and she acts just like him. I doubt it’s a coincidence, sometimes nature overrules nurture. I don’t know the nature of a stranger. They’re not the man that I fell in love with. I don’t even know if they’re someone that I’d like as a person or care to be around. I definitely can’t imagine propositioning someone that I/we know for their sperm. Or having that conversation about their true descent when the time comes… It’s really all too much for me to even consider. Plus knowing my husband and his pride, there’s just no way he’d go for it, even if I could somehow get on board with it.