(Closed) MIA MOH

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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65 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Maybe shes jealous, or maybe shes just not that into planning…

Have you guys actually had fun and talked about other stuff besides the wedding lately, maybe she feel like thats the only thing on your mind and is tired of hearing it. Maybe something else is wrong in her life. Whats her relationship status?

Just don’t demote her now, find out what is going on first. Maybe shes having a problem in school, studying, or just really busy. Take her out to lunch and just don’t talk about the wedding. If she asks about it, answer, but don’t drag on. I think you guys just might need some time off from planning, some girls just can’t handle it all.

Post # 5
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453 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Okay, tough love-maybe you should just ask her outright? One of my best friends is a Bridesmaid or Best Man (I’m an encore bride and going to be 39 when we say our I do’s). I love this girl-trust her with my kids, etc.-I thought she was disinterested and maybe sending me “a vibe” that she didn’t want to do it and was waiting for me to drop her. She has keys to my house, I have keys to hers, we keep each other’s kids, etc. The thing is, when I asked her-sitting at my kitchen table in tears-she was shocked that I felt that way. She was terribly apologetic, said the conversation was “enlightening” and didn’t realize how absent she had been. She said “I really want to be in your wedding and didn’t realize how much I had missed”-re: she has three kids, we’re both busy teachers & active in church, etc. If I had released or demoted her without this conversation, it would have irretrievably damaged our friendship.

I’m glad I asked, it cleared the air (I was starting to get REALLY resentful) and we are closer than ever. Keep in mind now, that this girl and I (while we don’t see each other as often as we like bc we teach at different schools and our kids are different ages, involved in different activities, she attends a different church, etc.) are close-she was with me when I was in labor and had one of 6 wrist bracelets that they give you per family with babies in the NICU. I told her that I realized that some friendships were around for a “season, a reason, or a lifetime” and that I was starting to wonder if we had drifted. A very short & heartfelt conversation on both our parts cleared the air.

Post # 6
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

im sorry but im confused… you say that “although we have no wedding date anymore, and no guest list” so that would make it no wedding right?   if no wedding what is there for a Maid/Matron of Honor to do? did i read your post correctly?

 

Post # 8
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

thanks Buttons-so there is a wedding (whew, glad to hear and sending hugs). 

you wouldnt be the first bride that is having issues currently with a Maid/Matron of Honor or Bridesmaid or Best Man.  maybe shes goal orientated & needs an actual timeline to start doing and planning stuff.   as she is still going to school and as the date might be in the distance she might not understand that there are things happening now with planning.

sorry this is a hassle for you but im glad you have one Maid/Matron of Honor that seems super supportive

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