(Closed) Michelle Duggar's Sex Advice: Do It, Even When You Don't Want To

posted 5 years ago in Intimacy
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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PinkPearls:  barf indeed. i understand being there in all ways for your dh, but if i dont want it, i dont want it. why should i force myself? 😒

Post # 3
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Bumble bee

Shes an a**hole. (sorry to be so crued but yeah.)

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I have sex quite frequently when I don’t want to. It’s not because the sex isn’t good, my fiance isn’t attractive (he’s hot as hell, really), but when I look a mess I FEEL a mess and therefore not sexy. The times I REALLY want it are when I’m looking good – usually Saturday nights, lol… ;).

There’s a reason a lot of men cheat and leave: sexual activity is very important to them, probably as important as emotional connection is – in general – to women. If he’s going to putter around Bouclair with you on a Saturday afternoon and spend the evening putting up a light (thanks, bae, haha) the way you can reciprocrate your thanks is with sex.

The saying “Men give love for sex and women give sex for love” doesn’t HAVE to be bad or degrading. It’s about giving what someone needs to get what you want. Pleasing each other. Compromise, etc.

I could be bias because them majority of the examples I have in my personal adavice from men leaving or cheating is usually the result of a little bit of sexual attention from a random that they become addicted to and their “priorities” get messed up in that they don’t want to be with a woman who doesn’t have sex frequently, regardless of how awesome she is in every area.

 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2007

I can’t wrap my mind around this way of thinking. I mean, I’d hate to have sex with DH and find out he’s just being a good sport, and doing it because I want it but he would rather be sleeping/reading/watching TV. You know? 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

She cray. If i don’t want sex, it simply does not happen. I’m a part of a team with my Fiance.. not his servant.

I’m still here for you and I’m going to meet that need because I know it’s a need for you.’”

Will my Fiance meet my need for Chipotle on demand? Yeah, probably not.  Crazy woman.

 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

“Chipolte on demand,” HAHAHAH. That’s awesome.

I’m clearly in the minority, lol. I mean, I say no sometimes, but not often. I’ve been planning to say no even less.

 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

Why does she make it sound like the only choices are exhausted mandatory sex or no sex?

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Helper bee

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PinkPearls:  I wouldn’t take anything the Duggars say seriously saying they think it’s inappropriate for girls to wear pants 😒

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Bumble bee

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mrspereira:  So I should expect my husband to cheat on me, because of personal health issues I have, we have sex roughly once a month? He’s going to throw away 5 years of our relationship, because he can’t control his urges and is a walking sex machine?

Yeah, no. I don’t know what kind of men you hang out with or the relationships you’ve had, but my relationship is more than just sex. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

Eh…I agree with her advice but not wholly.

I would only do it if I don’t want to if it does not infringe on my personal journey. For example, if I am pregnant and have morning sickness, it would be highly considerate for my man not to understand. I mean, wtf?

But, if I just dont feel like it for no particular reason, I don’t mind caving in for the sake of the greater good.  There are things I am sure he does, not because he wants to, but because it will make me happy (again, as long as it does not violate some definitive boundary). I think having that kind of compromise is healthy in a good relationship.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - City, State

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mrsfiddlesticks:  LMAO you’re awesome. 😂 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

They’ve actually done studies about couples who take “intimacy pacts” where they agree to have sex every single day whether they want to or not, and the relationships actually get stronger and more passionate. So, she’s not wrong. And she’s not saying do it every night either. Because men get just as tired and exhausted as we do. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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Ckasnoff:  You shouldn’t expect anything, but you should be realistic. He’s your husband, he’s there to support you through sickness and in health, but his needs and satisfactions come into play, too. Do you, honestly, believe he’s satisfied with sex once a month? 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

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mrspereira:  I’ve initiated numerous conversations  concerning it, and every single time he has said he is fine. He’s also not one to say something if it wasn’t true. He’s also said that our relationship is more than sex. 

But hey, he’s obviously a liar and is secretly hooking up with randoms when he’s supposed to be at work. And it’s all my fault. 

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