- 1 year ago
- Wedding: September 2018
First time poster here and I need some advice. I have worked for the same retail company for 12 years and have advanced into a senior position. My attempts at becoming a store manager were futile as this company has a major desire for hiring externally. Even after being sought out for a promotion the job ultimately went to someone from the outside and that started my disloyal wheels in motion as I am well qualified for the job.
Recently we restructured and my position was changing in a really great direction, however my current manager refuses to let go and let any of my peers actually perform their new tasks. She has to have control over everything and it is a struggle every day to even do a simple task such as an email. Just yesterday she got into a yelling match with me on the sales floor because I tried to tend to my new tasks and she did not approve of me doing them. She was monitoring me emailing vendors from her home computer and when I hit send on one she immediately called me to tell me I shouldn’t have bothered a vendor (I just had a question for them that literally wouldn’t bother anyone) later after the yelling match (about a tracker I made to allow us to see who needed training mind you) she watched me on the cameras and then told another peer of mine to go into the back room and proceeded to yell at her for talking “shit” about her on stage because she watched me “put my hands up in rage” from the camera!!! I am appalled at her actions (and my hands went up in rage because my coworker told me something about her ex husband, so way to assume it’s about you)
this is is just one of many instances where she undermines my work.
I have tried to have calm conversations with her but she doesn’t listen. I have gone as far as our DM for solutions yet nothing gets resolved. I am getting married in September and FH and I would like to try to have a family soon after. I will also be 33 by the time of the wedding. What scares me is that I know I need to change my career as it just is not panning out how I thought it would. I have my Cosmetology license and would like to get back into hair styling. I think the hours/flexibility would suit my needs to be a mother however, is it too late to start a new career in that field? I am currently the bread winner in our family and I’m terrified of failure but I’m also really anxious going into my current work place now for fear of daily sabotage and a boss that literally yells in my face in front of customers. I have been loyal for 12 years, 4 of which at this location and sadly transferring is not an option due to the restructure all roles were filled, plus I’m kind of hurt by how poorly the upper leadership values loyalty that I don’t know how I feel about the company at all anymore.
So so I guess my real question is. Is it too late to reignite my hair styling career if I am the head of household? Did you have a hard time kicking off your career as a stylist? What were some set backs or celebrations?
Thank you all for listening.