Post # 1
FH and I are seriously considering a microwedding to cut costs. There would be maybe 20 of us max. 15 minimum. All of our family would be coming from out of town, so I don’t want to ask any of them for set up/logistical help. I also don’t want FH or I to have to do any work on the day of. We want to hire professionals for all help. The most important vendor would be the photographer.
We know we want to get married on the beach or the bay.
I am frustrated because I can’t find anyone who will cater for such a small group. Maybe get takeout delivered? But how to keep the food fresh?
I’m ok with going to a restaurant, but I really want private or quasi private dining with a view of the ocean, a patio would be great. I don’t want strangers staring at us as we cut our cake, or strangers in our photos. I can’t find any restaurants that have private dining for such a small group, except for this one waterfront restaurant that has an icky windowless room with super drab walls.
At this point, it almost feels like it would be easier to just have a bigger wedding.
How did you do the decorating and catering for your microwedding?
Also, how do you “walk down the aisle” with so few guests? Do you have to give it up altogether? I feel there is something very sentimental about walking down the aisle, I’ve known for years what song I want to walk down to. The thought of skipping that part actually makes me very sad.
Post # 2
Have you checked out Thumbtack.com or Taskrabbit.com? You can hire professionals and people who do jobs on the side. I hired my florist and driver from Thumbtack for my wedding. I’ve used Taskrabbit many times for other jobs such as setting up and cleaning up for events. You can find caterers, bakers, drivers, event staff, etc on these sites.
Post # 3
thank you!!! I was starting to look into “elopement packages” which are really more focused on just the ceremony
Post # 4
I guess my recent wedding was a “microwedding” though I’d never heard that until now! We had 21 people total. We had ours at a B&B that does weddings–look into that in the area you want. No decorating was necessary, it was beautiful already. They provided cake and punch for a little reception afterwards. And i definitely walked down the aisle! I was just a short aisle 😀 THEN we went to dinner at a restaurant. It wasn’t completely private but we did have one end of one of the dining rooms.
I loved it, wouldn’t change a thing.
Post # 5
Oh, i also looked into booking a private home from Airbnb and doing it that way, then I’d have more control over time, etc, but the way we did it was a bit easier
By that’s something to consider too!
Post # 6
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
Second the suggestion to look into B&B’s. I had my microwedding at one and it was great. They also catered so we were able to stay there for the ceremony and reception. While we didn’t do it ourselves, we were given the option to rent the whole place for the weekend. That could give you maximum privacy of you were to do something like that. As far as decorating, the inn was pretty well decorated, and my planner filled in any decoration gaps she saw.
Post # 7
Airbnb. Then have a restaurant cater. I’ve never known them not to cater for 20 but if they won’t, then door dash?
Post # 8
Thanks for all your help!
My concern with AirBnB is that most places explicitly prohibit weddings. Also, it’s my understanding that they can pretty much cancel on your with very little notice.
I just spoke with a wedding planner, and she said that setting up a tent on the beach would be hard to do, but we could do our ceremony on the sand then go to a hotel/resort after for more of a restaurant type recepion.
Why are weddings so expensive! Gah!!
Post # 9
We had 17 guests at our wedding. We got married at a state park in Florida, and then had a catered dinner at the Airbnb we rented. We decorated the house with flowers, fairy lights, and candles.
Before booking, I asked the owner of the Airbnb if she was okay with us having extra family members over for a dinner party, and she had no problem with that. Some people get weird when they hear the word wedding, but really how is a small reception different then a dinner party?
I’ve never had a problem with Airbnb canceling last minute.
Post # 10
Unless you’re getting married in a small town, you should be able to find a restaurant that has semi-private dining…especially on the water! I’d go through Yelp and email every last one of the places on the water.
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2019 - Somewhere in Texas
Hi bee, I am having a similar size wedding. We are doing it in our backyard and having Buca di Beppo cater it. It’s a gorgeous backyard so we’ve made peace with not being able to have it at a venue.
As as far as logistics and set up, do you have any local friends that might want to help? My friends husband is going to be our “bartender.” Things like that help a lot. cinnarum :
Post # 12
I spoke to a couple wedding planners and one does have an elopement/microwedding service, but it costs the same as the full service package of a different planner! And the other planner doesn’t have a microwedding package per se, but she doesn’t offer a discount because it’s a smaller guest count and I wouldn’t need her overseeing the “reception.”
Lesson learned– if you’re going to have a microwedding to cut costs, keep it small and low pressure enough that you don’t feel the need to use a planner. I’m starting to think planning a microwedding can be more work because it’s such a small market! So discouraging. I really don’t want to end up blowing a bunch of money to make my microwedding fancy to appease judgy family.
I want to avoid using “friendors” because FH’s friends are all partiers and mine are all out of town and/or not great with time management and/or partiers. Love them anyways!
Major respect to everyone who manages to keep their weddings within budget. This is really, really hard.
Post # 13
We are also looking into having a microwedding with 10-12 guests MAX, if even that. Currently we are looking at tiny local museums, zoos, and restaurants. I agree it seems to be so much harder because when people hear the word “wedding” they think of a huge group coming in and taking over. And then if you are too small, they don’t want something being a distraction in their establishment that won’t be paying top dollar, so they charge you the same as they would a large wedding anyways (like a flat fee to make it even). Maybe we can keep this thread going to get updates from other people who are having a microwedding to share tips and tricks.
Post # 14
I had a small wedding, 25 people. We got married at a local park gazebo and had a “reception” in a local restaurant. They did have a private room, so that was nice. A friend of mine was kind enough to set up, otherwise, I would have.
And I walked down an “aisle”. Just a short walk on a sidewalk with my dad. It was important to him.