- 4 years ago
I’m 36 and single.
I want marriage and I want to have a family. I don’t know why it hasn’t happened for me yet. My late 20s/early 30s were spent in 5 year relationship that failed. I experienced loss of 2 immediate family members. I dated someone I was really in love with and we broke up (and that took me a year to get over) and suddenly I’m in my mid 30s and single.
Besides that I have a happy and full life. I have a great group of friends that I love. I own my own successful business. I own a house. I travel and do things I love. I take care of myself and am attractive (I get hit on a lot by younger guys who are late 20s early 30s who think I’m that age). But I haven’t found that one special person and I really want that in my life and I really want to experience motherhood.
I know it’s not too late for me to have a family. Women in my family including my mom and grandmother have had healthy babies well into their 40s. But when I really let myself think about my closing window of opportunity or dating pool I get really frightened and I feel a lot of pressure. I really don’t want that to come across in dating and I’ve always felt independence and never desparation in the past (I hope I’m not feeling that now)
I know I’m ready to love and walk through life with someone. I have so much to give to somebody and I want to have someone to share everything I’m already enjoying on my own with. I also know I have so much love to give to a child and wisdom and I know I would be a good parent.
i can’t do anything about my past. Things have worked out how they have as a result of my own choices but also because of some things outside of my control but I’m also just needing some hope or maybe a positive way of looking at dating right now because I’m feeling disappointment and pressure (which is making everything feel forced)
thoughts or suggestions??