(Closed) Mid-twenties life crisis!

posted 5 years ago in College
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I’m not sure anyone is good at studying and I don’t think procrastination issues is a reason. If you view your degree as the holy grail, then you do what you have to do to gain that. If I was you, I would reassess how important that is to you. Maybe use your arts degree and go back to uni when you have some more maturity behind you.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

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Jacqui90:  i did the opposite to you.  I went straight into full time work as soon as i finished school, and it wasnt until 6 years of being a shit-kicker and realising i needed a degree to get further in my career, that i returned to school.  I am now studying an undergrad part time while working full time.

If you are good at working, then i would put all your resources into work.  Maybe once you have matured a bit and realise what.you want to do in a career aspect, you will return to school and have the motivation to finish.  

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

Not sure if this is helpful but my advice would be to defer uni and either travel or work. Can you get a job at an accounting firm, even just as a receptionist or doing filing or something? It will give you a lot of insight into that industry. I know zilch about accounting but maybe as tax time is coming up places might be looking for extra help?

I started uni straight out of high school too and looking back I really wish I took a gap year first. I think working or travelling by yourself away from study is really beneficial. I travelled solo for 3 months after I got my degree and I think I matured a lot in that time. You have gone through so much study already with no real break, and having some time away from that will really help your personal growth in other areas. 

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

If you knew it was *always* accounting, why didn’t you just go to school for that in the first place? Grad school is competitive and it’s a shame that your spot is being held while you procrastinate and fail when it could’ve gone to someone else that had the passion and drive to complete the schooling.

You cling to the idea of accounting like it’s the be-all end-all of your future (like aren’t you waiting to get married until you’re done with school?). Why can’t you go back to working where you were in the finance sector and really make sure that’s what you want to do before you waste any more time and money in uni? 

Honestly, I don’t think this is a “mid-20s” crisis. I think maybe that the reality of the last 4 years spent waffling back and forth and making 0 progress towards your goals is really starting to catch up with you. 

The only advice I can give you is that if this is what you truly want to do – then TRY. TRY harder. Every day. Make an effort to do more than you did the day before. (But I know this is falling on deaf ears). 

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

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Jacqui90:  I’m sure there’s something open in the financial sector that you could at least apply to. If you’re quitting uni, you should absolutely find somewhere to apply. I can promise you that not having school or work to look forward to will make your depression 100x worse. At the least, volunteer at an animal shelter just to get out of the house a bit. 

Don’t you have an advisor in your degree program? Can you talk to them? Your school should also have career counselors on staff that can meet with you, go over your resume and help you look for positions. Contacting a third party for that advice is a waste of time when your uni *should* have them at your fingertips – and they should be better situated to help you since they’ll have your file/transcripts/history and have university connections. Linkedin also has a search function where you can look for alumni in your field and contact them directly for jobs (the career counselors should be able to help you navigate that).

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

I would suggest you no longer go to school. It seems like you need to get out of a rut. Get a job. ANY JOB. It will make you feel better to be out of the house and making money. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

So are you volunteering more than once a week now? I remember you saying it was becoming less than that but now you are highly valued? Do you have a letter of recommendation from your supervisor? Can you get one?

Contact a career advisor. I would also get a psycologist to meet with regularly in addition to your psychiatrist. 

I would also go and get a menial job doing anything (like waiting tables) but we know you won’t do that. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee

I don’t think you should go to school anymore, as other posters said. You are potentially holding a spot that could be given to someone who can do the work and complete the degree, which is unfair to them. I’m not sure what health issues you struggle with, but I have to point out the procrastination is not one of them. As a previous poster said, no one enjoys studying. I’m graduating next fall and I STILL struggle with managing my time to get everything done, even after 4 years of course work. However, I’m not sure you’re able to handle college and classes, so you should drop out. But ONLY if you’re willing to work part time at LEAST. That doesn’t mean 8-10 hours a week. We’re looking at 23 or so. I’m currently working two jobs this summer-serving, and an unpaid internship. Most of the time is spent at the unpaid internship, and that in itself is frustrating, but having that experience will pay off. You don’t have to be a student for some internships, so maybe look into that? Indeed and Ziprecruiter are good sites to search for jobs and internshjps all at once. I also don’t think you’re going through a crisis. Again, as a previous poster mentioned, I think you’re looking back at the past 4 years and wondering what you have to show for it. As I mentioned before, I’m not aware of what problems you personally face. But sitting around the house WILL make it worse, and if you choose to do that, than you are willingly putting yourself in a position in which growth is impossible. You can get back on your feet and work through whatever issues you have, but YOU have to do it. It’s no one elses job, and if you don’t, whatever you struggle with isn’t to blame, but you are. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

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Sancerre:  I thought it was once every two weeks… Once a fortnight, I believe. 

Post # 15
Hostess
10358 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

Have you ever considered using your writing/arts degree and applying it TO the financial sector? You could find a job writing grants or business proposals…

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