(Closed) Mid-twenties life crisis!

posted 3 years ago in College
Post # 61
523 posts
Busy bee

I don’t know. I have trouble giving advice and doling out sympathy to a person who is so defensive. You ASKED for input, yet nothing is your fault. To be quite frank, I would not want an accountant who has procrastination issues that are “not her fault”. 

Let me tell you a story. My SO went to school for business and struggled. He took accounting because he had to and really was just meh at it. He got a job out of school that was heavily accounting based. Guess what? He hated it, wasn’t all too awesome at it, and wound up getting laid off. He went back to school for something he is actually good at and is now making sttaight As. If you have to force something, it likely isn’t for you. 

Post # 63
893 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Jacqui90:  Are you doing anything outside the office to change your behavior?

Here’s another exercise I suggest working on:

Post # 64
47197 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Jacqui90:  How many courses are a full course load at University in Australia?

Post # 66
47197 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999


Ok I think there is some missed information here. I cut back on the volunteering yes, because it was too much on top of my degree. Not by itself, although it is tiring and stressful. So if I didn’t have university there as well I could do more of the volunteering and/or a job.


So, you must quit trying to BS the Bees Jacqui. They are all too smart for that. You may kid yourself, but it’s not going to work here.

You weren’t taking a full course load for a degree. You were taking half a course load. Even adding in your tax course and volunteering one day every two weeks, you are not carrying the burden that an adult would be expected to carry.

Yet, rather than study so you passed those courses, you chose to be online having chats about what books everyone is reading. Even my kids, who are almost two decades younger than you, know that they can’t go on the computer until after their homework is done.

Your life is your responsibility. Mental illness cannot be use as an excuse for abandoning your responsibility for yourself , forever.

If you ever want to marry that boy who works in a stock room , the one who gave you the Tiffany ring, you need to make a conscious decision to overcome your biploar illness, not use it as a crutch for the rest of your life.


Post # 67
624 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

I have sat for both the CPA and am 3rd level CFA.  Got my MBA in econ and finance as well as an undergrad in accounting.  let me tell you the hard truth.

1.  There’s no such thing as an “excused” procrastination.  “I’m sick” will not get you out of a day’s work–they usually provide you with a laptop so you can work from home.  I was in labor still finishing my project for my boss.  Three hours after I gave birth, I was online wrapping up my project so I can take a 3-month leave. 

2.  Online classes won’t get you anywhere in finance.  I work for an international firm, the moment we see that university in your resume, you’re already out of the pool.

3.  You have mental issues? Great so do we.  Now get to work.  If you’re in my team, excuses better now leave your lips.  The people that tend to succeed in our world are those willing to work hard–when I mean hard I mean HARD.  We travel damn near weekly, be asked to do a proposal in Hong Kong in less than 2 days, and be able to be on call to our clients 24/7.  We get paid the good money but we don’t do it without sacrifice.  I have staff that breaks their foot snowboarding with a client and is back to work online within 3 days (usually at home logging in hours). 

We live in a world of productive outputs–not excuses.  I don’t know but I can already tell from your post that you don’t live in that kind of world.  You will be left behind and you will be replaced a less-whiny, more productive individual.  If I were you, I’d start doing some reflecting. 

Post # 68
3682 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

If you haven’t already, you need to give your parents and psych team full access to your online accounts. Everything you post here looking for people to tear you down? I think you like it, in some sick way. This behavior isn’t normal or healthy. You know exactly what’s going to happen when you post threads like this. 

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