Post # 1
I had to post this hysterical photo. Who knows what the little boy is really thinking, but the photo does seem to capture the despair (jokingly being dramatic here) of being a middle child. So Bees, what are your thoughts on the topic? Do you think middle-children have a vaild argument (i.e. – being the middle child SUCKS)?
Personally, I AM a middle child and in terms of big life events (i.e. – graduations, celebrations, etc.) I do feel I got the short end of the stick most of the time. For example, I always got sucky Entemman’s cakes for my bday while my sisters got special order cakes from hard to get to bakeries. Never understood why? Just chalked it up to not being as important as my sisters were.
Any fellow MCers out there?!
Post # 3
I’m not a middle but I am an only child of alcoholic/abusive parents. I could write a book 🙂
Post # 4
I am a middle child, of two boys…. My rules were strict!!! My brothers got away with EVERYTHING! Although my brother and I have first born reversal roles. So I act more like the first born- more successful, more independent, more strict with rules ect. where as my brother has his own issues and is not forgotten but more toned down. He has created his own issues though and doesnt do family stuff at all…
Post # 5
I’m a Middle Child and I definitely think middle children get treated differently, especially because I had an older sister and younger brother. I got all of my sisters hand-me-downs while both my sister and brother always got new stuff which is fine, except by the time I reached 11 years old I was just as tall as my older sister and her hand-me-downs just didn’t quite fit or were too small as was the case with my bike, yet my sister got a new bike and I got her’s which I had already out grown but had to ride. Growing up I was blamed for a lot, my brother and sister would get into a fight and my parents would automatically yell for me to stop bugging my brother, even when I was sitting right next to them.
Now that I’m older it’s a little bit different, I’ve kind of become my parents favourite. Growing up I had to learn to be a little more independent and do things for myself and now my parents always want to come over to my house and visit because it’s an escape for them. My sister and brother-in-law and their 2 kids are over at my parents house at least 3-5 days a week and my brother moved back home 2 years ago after being away for school, neither of them do anything to help my parents around the house, but my SO and I will drive 45 minutes to see them to help repair their garage door, or help with stuff around the house. Now my mom constantly tells me my sister and brother how she wishes I was closer and how nice it is when I come visit so I guess the middle child thing kind of goes away as you get older.
Post # 6
I’m a middle child — my older sister is just 16 months older and was only a year ahead of me in school, while my brother is a full five years younger than me. My brother definitely was the “baby” and was pretty spoiled, but I always felt like my sister and I were pretty equal. I mean, obviously I got a lot of hand-me-downs, but that never bothered me. I was always a really high achiever and got a lot attention because of it, so probably it was more my sister that suffered middle child syndrome, haha.
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California
I’m the oldest, I have a younger brother [middle child], & a younger sister [baby – we have an 8 year age gap]. It’s kind of funny because we all fit most of the stereotypes that come along with those “titles” ;]
Post # 8
@GonnaBeAFind: I have definitely noticed that the middle child stigma seems to go away as you get older. I think that has something to do with how driven and successful most MCers tend to be. I’ve read that because of having grown up in the shadows of older/younger siblings, most MCers tend to really strike out and find success once they are on their own making themselves more desireable to the same parents that [unintentionally?] ignored them growing up.
Post # 9
@stephanie091512: So do me and my sisters. Maybe it’s the age gap? My sisters and I have large age gaps between all of us. I would think the birth order doesn’t matter as much if the siblings are less than two years apart. I wonder….
Post # 10
I am a middle child and yes we get treated differently. My mom was and still is hard on me and not my siblings. She helps me siblings way more than me. I am a firm believer in middle schild syndrome.
Post # 11
@skipanther: Exactly how i feel!!!
Post # 12
I’m the middle child of 5. 2 older brothers. 1 younger brother and 1 younger sister. We’re all grown now and to this day, my parents may or may not even remember I exist. lol. So yeah I’d say the stereotype was true for me. But like others, I’ve probably been the most driven and definitely the most independent of the 5 of us. So I think I turned out okay.
Post # 13
Not a middle child — I’m the baby and the only girl and I was the golden child. I could’ve gotten away with murder if I batted my eyes at my parents.
My brother, however, is the middle child and he definitely has middle child syndrome. Always has, too.
Post # 14
My FI is a middle child, second boy and the last child is a girl. He definitely suffers from Middle Child Syndrome. It really exists and I think the only people who don’t suffer from it are the middle children who area different gender from the other kids because that makes them special. He did a whole lot as a kid to get attention to hear his parents tell it, and it didn’t always end well for him. But I see the effect it had on him even today.
Post # 15
Can we get some parents with 3+ children to weigh in?
How does this work? How does a parent look at the middle child and think, “Hmm.. I don’t like you as much…”
Post # 16
I was the middle child, but I really didn’t mind it. I have an older brother and younger sister, so I think being the oldest girl helped soften a little bit of the blow. I’m definitely the loudest, maybe because I needed to be, and I had some inferiority complexes, but I found my own way and my parents are really proud now.
@Chrysoberyl: I assume you’re joking a little, but I think it’s less not liking, and more that it doesn’t have the excitement of the first time for each event, nor the sad-savoring of the last time. But I think a lot of the middle child stuff is something we put on ourselves. It’s easy to blame something on the middle child thing, but my brother did everything my parents asked, so it’s not like they praised him because he was the oldest, it was because he did a good job!
I love being the middle child now. Although I’m the only one who’s married and now starting a family, so in some ways I feel like the oldest. But I think it’s nice to have siblings close in age to me, and to experience having an older sibling and being an older sibling.