(Closed) Middle Child Syndrome – Does it exist? Are you an MC?

posted 7 years ago in Parenting
Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m the third of four kids and I can’t say I ever really had the stereotypical middle child experience. What I can say is that my younger brother always has been spoiled! My parents coddled the crap out of him, and still do. I’ve always been the one who includes my parents in what’s going on in my life the most, so I think that has affected my relationship with them more than my order of birth. My siblings barely tell my parents what goes on with them, so I think they  just genuinely have a different type of relationship with me than with them.

 

Post # 33
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1381 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I have an older sister and a younger bro and younger sis, so I’m #2 out of 4.

I can’t really say I can complain about too much, really.  I find that I am self-sufficient and able to get along with those older and younger than me.. moreso than many others.  But I also never really cared to be center of attention or anything like that!

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@VegasSukie:  I totally agree with you about being stronger and empathetic.  I already emailed my mom about the photo.  Fingers crossed she finds it. 🙂

Post # 35
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I’m the oldest child (and I definitely let that head rawr sometimes), but Fiance is the middle child. He has his moments. His older brother could be a mass murderer and his mom wouldn’t even think twice about it, and his younger brother is not the sharpest tool in the shed but gets away with murder, too. He does not get the same treatment.

Post # 36
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I’m the baby but I definitely have witnessed MCS with my niece. She the second youngest (2 older siblings) & my sister acts like she doesn’t exist. She gets the shit end of the stick because she’s not as girly as her older sister & she’s no longer the baby. My sister’s parenting skills totally and completely SUCK so that probably contributes to it but it’s totally noticeable.

 

There are HUGE differences between the oldest & the youngest so idk why middle would be any different.

 

Post # 37
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1623 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m the middle of 3 (older sister, younger brother).  I LOVED IT!  While my siblings had a 5 yr age gap I was pretty close in age to each, making playing with them way more fun growing up–to this day I think I have a closer relationship to each of them than they do to each other.  There are more baby pics of my older sister but about the same of me and my brother (I think the novelty and free time are different with the first kid).  I definitely also learned more peace-making skills being a middle child (and now I’m a psychologist).  I never felt like I was treated differently by my parents.

Post # 38
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535 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

 

I’m the youngest of 4 and the only girl, but my middle brother definitely has it, or at least thought he had it. Everything was a competition with him. He had to be more popular than the oldest, more jock than the youngest, and better grades than me. Funny thing is, dad never treated any of them differently. It was just how he saw it.

Post # 42
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375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m a middle child (sister, me, brother) and I definitely think that the middle child thing is real. It affected me when I was younger but now that I’m past my teen years it’s definitely gone away.

 

I actually think my older sister had it the worst though because she was the first to do everything but had the most rules and got in the most trouble. Lol.

Post # 43
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7371 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@VegasSukie:  I have fractured family, so it’s not with them that I witnessed the MC syndrome as much. It’s with my SO nephews. He’s in the awkward stage where doesn’t get attention like the oldest or youngest so he used to purposely act out. Thankfully that behavior has calmed down some, but everyone in while it flares up.

Post # 44
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457 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@VegasSukie:  Took me long enough!!  I had to find the photo…. and here it is.  If that’s not the look of pure disappointment I don’t know what is. hahaha.  My older brothers face is priceless. 

 

 

Post # 45
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I was a middle child growing up and I definitly had the middle child syndrome.  I felt overlooked sometimes so to make up for it, I was very outgoing.  i craved attention I felt my older sister and younger brother got so I was alsways looking to be the center of attention.  It’s funny looking back on it now.  I was like that my whoel life too, even in hs.  

My sister hated being the oldest at times too as she got blamed for knowing better or not setting a good example when I got in trouble…lots of pressure on her to be perfect.  And since se got so much attention for being perfect I felt I had to be perfect too (in school) to compete.  My brother who is 3 years younger than me got away with murder.  He was the spoiled baby and then by the time he got older, they had laxed all the strict rules they had had in place with us girls.

Post # 46
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Fiance is oldest…the test kid and only boy.  He was a rotton toddler and young child but good kid.  His little sister #1 was a great baby but horrible pre-teen, teen and is still a bit ornery today.  Sister #2 could get away with murder, but is a good kid overall.  Even tempered, gentle, eager to please her mom jokes she hasn’t had one bad day with her.

So it’s personality…somehow sister 1 was born outgoing and obstinant, where my Fiance and his youngest sister (and their parents for the most part) are very much cooperative introverts.

I’m #2 of 4, and I have 3 brothers.  My parents are hardest on my older brother and I, understanding of my younger bro 1 and downright spoil younger brother 2.  I think, all said they are harder on my older brother than my younger, more middle one.

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