(Closed) Middle name or last name?? Which to use?

posted 6 years ago in Names
  • poll: Which name should I use?
    Keep my middle name and drop my maiden name. : (24 votes)
    67 %
    Drop my middle name and keep my maiden name. : (7 votes)
    19 %
    Flip a coin. Heads - use your middle. Tails - use your maiden. : (5 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 3
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    14496 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I kept my middle name, I actually like it.  Besides, my maiden name is Smith, and nobody needs that as a middle name.

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I liked both my middle and last names. I ended up keeping my middle name and dropping my maiden name. It was a sad day I lost my maiden name.

    Post # 5
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    282 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I am going to keep my middle name and drop my maiden name. My maiden name is Daniel and as a middle name, well, it’s a boy name. lol.

    Post # 6
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    510 posts
    Busy bee

    I kept my middle name and dropped my maiden name because I really like my middle name!  Although I was sad to lose my maiden, ‘family’ name, esp because my Dad passed away 3+ years ago ๐Ÿ™  But I’m named after his mother (my grandmother) so I am carrying on a family name that way ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 7
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    519 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I dropped my middle name and kept my maiden name. My maiden name is totally not a middle name, but I like how it’s different. Plus, I still consider my middle name to be the one I was born with. My maiden name is really only my middle name in a legal sense. 

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I kept my middle name and dropped my maiden name. My middle name is my maternal grandmother’s, who is simply a wonderful person that is respected and loved by everyone who meets her. (It’s her first name, but she goes by her second name instead…so we share a name, though neither of us uses it!)

    I felt more of an identity connection to my middle name than my maiden name, and I like having the shared surname with my husband. I’ll always be a “<Maiden Name> girl,” but I’ll also carry a little bit of my grandmother and husband with me. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 9
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I just went to the SS office and they allowed me to keep my birth last name, my previous marriage last name and add MM last name-   Retread Bride  Birth Firstmarriage second marriage-  go figure

    Post # 10
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    7695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I kept my middle and dropped my maiden. I love my middle name and figure my brothers can carry on our last name so there’s no need for me to keep it.

    Post # 11
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    5668 posts
    Bee Keeper

    What about keeping both? First Middle1 MaidenAsMiddle2 Last? It’s something I’ve been heavily considering.

    Post # 12
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    2183 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

    Well… much to my husband’s dismay, I now have two middle names. My middle name hadn’t done anything wrong, so I wanted to keep it. My dad’s health isn’t the best, and I have two nieces. I kept my maiden name as a middle name because, in an emergency, I wanted to be easily identified as a member of “maiden name” family. I’ll only use both names for legal stuff.

    Post # 13
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    1474 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)

    @Aure: I was just going to suggest that! If you like both, why not keep both? And since we don’t use middle names all too often, I don’t think it’d be that big of a deal or hassle if you had two of them. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I’m having this problem too. My first name and my new last name sound so goofy because they have the same sounds in them. But since my first name and middle name and maiden name all rhyme, I’m screwed no matter what I do!!!

    I say keep whatever sounds best with your new last name. That way you can always toss that initial on your checks or whatever til you get used to it. For me it is my middle name.

    Post # 15
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    147 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    I’ve never heard of dropping your middle name – can anyone enlighten me on what thats about?

    When I get married I’ve always just thought it would be MyFirst Name MyMiddleName MyNewLastName

    Post # 16
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    2183 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

    @AllRosesandSunshine: At least in America, (only stating that because I don’t know other laws…), when you get married, you have lots of options regarding your name– there is no automatic change. You go down to the social security office to legally change your name (if you so choose). You can choose to discard your middle name and replace it with your maiden name, you can just drop your maiden name and add his last name, or you can hyphenate, or add your maiden name as a middle name (as I did)… there are lots of options. Your name is your choice.

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