Post # 1
For some reason, on my way to work this morning, I started thinking about what my middle name will be after I get married. I’m taking FI’s last name but wondering if I should keep my middle name and drop my maiden name or drop my middle name and keep my middle name. I’ve read some posts by other bees but it seems like most people have an attachment to one name or the other. This isn’t the case for me. I like my middle name. Although there isn’t any family connection to it, there is a great story behind it. I also like my last name. It’s a good, solid name. It’s also my family name. However, I’m not particularly bothered by the thought of giving up either one. Both are names that would flow with my new last name (which, unfortunately, is not so true of my first name. My first name + my new last name = all kinds of awkward sounding, but oh well, that’s a thought for another post.)
So bees, what did you guys do? Which name do you suggest that I keep?
Post # 3
I kept my middle name, I actually like it. Besides, my maiden name is Smith, and nobody needs that as a middle name.
Post # 4
I liked both my middle and last names. I ended up keeping my middle name and dropping my maiden name. It was a sad day I lost my maiden name.
Post # 5
I am going to keep my middle name and drop my maiden name. My maiden name is Daniel and as a middle name, well, it’s a boy name. lol.
Post # 6
I kept my middle name and dropped my maiden name because I really like my middle name! Although I was sad to lose my maiden, ‘family’ name, esp because my Dad passed away 3+ years ago 🙁 But I’m named after his mother (my grandmother) so I am carrying on a family name that way 🙂
Post # 7
I dropped my middle name and kept my maiden name. My maiden name is totally not a middle name, but I like how it’s different. Plus, I still consider my middle name to be the one I was born with. My maiden name is really only my middle name in a legal sense.
Post # 8
I kept my middle name and dropped my maiden name. My middle name is my maternal grandmother’s, who is simply a wonderful person that is respected and loved by everyone who meets her. (It’s her first name, but she goes by her second name instead…so we share a name, though neither of us uses it!)
I felt more of an identity connection to my middle name than my maiden name, and I like having the shared surname with my husband. I’ll always be a “<Maiden Name> girl,” but I’ll also carry a little bit of my grandmother and husband with me. 🙂
Post # 9
I just went to the SS office and they allowed me to keep my birth last name, my previous marriage last name and add MM last name- Retread Bride Birth Firstmarriage second marriage- go figure
Post # 10
I kept my middle and dropped my maiden. I love my middle name and figure my brothers can carry on our last name so there’s no need for me to keep it.
Post # 11
What about keeping both? First Middle1 MaidenAsMiddle2 Last? It’s something I’ve been heavily considering.
Post # 12
- Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium
Well… much to my husband’s dismay, I now have two middle names. My middle name hadn’t done anything wrong, so I wanted to keep it. My dad’s health isn’t the best, and I have two nieces. I kept my maiden name as a middle name because, in an emergency, I wanted to be easily identified as a member of “maiden name” family. I’ll only use both names for legal stuff.
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)
@Aure: I was just going to suggest that! If you like both, why not keep both? And since we don’t use middle names all too often, I don’t think it’d be that big of a deal or hassle if you had two of them. 🙂
Post # 14
I’m having this problem too. My first name and my new last name sound so goofy because they have the same sounds in them. But since my first name and middle name and maiden name all rhyme, I’m screwed no matter what I do!!!
I say keep whatever sounds best with your new last name. That way you can always toss that initial on your checks or whatever til you get used to it. For me it is my middle name.
Post # 15
I’ve never heard of dropping your middle name – can anyone enlighten me on what thats about?
When I get married I’ve always just thought it would be MyFirst Name MyMiddleName MyNewLastName
Post # 16
- Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium
@AllRosesandSunshine: At least in America, (only stating that because I don’t know other laws…), when you get married, you have lots of options regarding your name– there is no automatic change. You go down to the social security office to legally change your name (if you so choose). You can choose to discard your middle name and replace it with your maiden name, you can just drop your maiden name and add his last name, or you can hyphenate, or add your maiden name as a middle name (as I did)… there are lots of options. Your name is your choice.