Post # 1
So this is something that i really cant decide on what i want to do. My mom kept her maiden name as her middle name (but that was because her dad had all girls and she wanted to carry on his name) but i have a brother to do that. my name would sound something to the effect with my FS last name if i kept my middle name
Shelly Elizabeth Caldwell
vs keeping my maiden name
Shelly Molten Cadlwell
Let me know what you think i should do and what you did
Post # 3
It doesn’t sound like you have a strong emotional attachment to your maiden name like your mom did. So is there any professional reason it would be better for you to keep your maiden name in any way? If not, I would just drop the maiden. I decided to keep mine because professionally I wanted to stay associated with it, so replaced my middle name with maiden.
Post # 4
I like SEC better than SMC. the name just flows better. Personally, I kept my middle name and took his last name, but I also have this thing about either dropping my maiden name or hyphenating. my maiden name as my middle was just weird.
Post # 5
I replaced my middle with my maiden, and have no regrets! I identified with my maiden name more than my middle, although my middle name was lovely and I liked it. I just felt like I wanted to keep that connection with my birth family, and because professionally I still wanted an association with my maiden. It’s such a hard decision to make, and totally personal. Good luck!! 🙂
Post # 6
It all depends on what you feel the most comfortable with 🙂 I will be dropping my maiden name, keeping my middle name as my middle name and taking FI’s last name (which will be difficult as I love my last name)
Post # 8
@bridetobe121512: We are in the exact same boat! I don’t need to keep my maiden name to honor my father’s family – I have four brothers – but I can’t decide whether to keep it or drop it. My new name flows better with my middle name, but the maiden name sounds fine too, and possibly more professional. (This is the same opinion I have of your name combos.)
I wish I could help. But I’m going to follow this post so I can get advice, too!