Post # 1
My husband and I have been discussing names, and while we tend to agree on most first names, that’s not the case with a middle name. I want the middle name to be a family name. Darling Husband prefers to use a name that sounds good with the first name. What are you all going with?
Post # 3
Both if ya lucky!! Otherwise I prefer a name that sounds good with the first. U can start your own family name 🙂
Post # 4
I think a family name that goes well with the first name, but overall a name that goes well with the first name. Fiance and I have a top top girl’s name picked out for when we have kids, but a family middle name doesn’t go well with it, so we would put a different middle name. If we had a second girl though we have a name in mind that the family name goes well with.
Post # 5
I like the idea of using family names as middle names and I did this with my 2 boys however I wouldn’t use a name I didn’t like.
Post # 6
We are using family names. My mum has passed down her middle name to me an I would like to do the same. My SO’s family also has traditions regarding boys middle names so that is what we will be doing.
Post # 7
Edit: double post.
I do love traditions and family names but probably wouldn’t choose one I didn’t like.
Post # 8
We’re using a family name if it’s a boy, and if it’s a girl we’re using a unique name that we both love.
If we have a boy, his name is DH’s first name, FIL’s first name, and my grandfather’s first name. I also wanted to keep the J initial (at least for middle name) because every man in my immediate family has a J name. My father, both grandfathers, Father-In-Law, Darling Husband…all J names. 🙂
Post # 9
Both if you can, but if I had to choose I’d go with what sounds good. I think the family name thing is overrated. I know a couple of people with family names and they HATE their name and wish their parents would have just picked something that sounded good instead of something so old fashioned (in their case). Your situation is a little different since its a middle name and not a first, but I’d still go with what sounds good.
Post # 10
I used a family name for DS and plan on doing the same with this LO. Luckily, they both sound good with the first names! If they didn’t sound good together I don’t know if I would have still chosen them.
Post # 11
We just picked a name that we liked. He cared more about her first name. I pretty much picked her middle name. I would’ve considered a family name just nothing really worked with her first name.
Post # 12
As PP’s have said, if you can make both happen then go that way… I love the idea of using family names, but a name does have to flow and sound good together.
Post # 13
I would choose a name that sounds good, doesn’t form negative-connotation initials, that we both love, that has a meaningful meaning!
But I have never had a family name I wanted to use, so I could see (if I did have one) that that might play into importance. I chose a first name from my heritage and a middle name from my family’s heritage (and a place I used to live where some of my family still does).
Post # 14
I agree with those that say both 😉 Something meaningful that also flows well is ideal. Any names you had in mind?
The name we picked was something that just sounded good with the first name, but if we were having a boy, the middle name would be a family name. And I wouldn’t really be opposed to a family name for a girl either – could use Rose, Elisabeth, Ruth.. but none of those quite fit the style I was going for.
Post # 16
Oh, another idea is a variant on a family name. For example, if you have Elizabeth as a family name, you could possibly use Beth, Eliza, etc if it sounds better with the first name.