(Closed) midlife crisis…at 24

posted 5 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Well, you sound like me when you say that the only thing you’re 100% sure you want to be is a mom! I’ve told Darling Husband this several times, and it truly is the one thing I know. I’m in limbo myself because I want to have a higher degree other than just an AA (feel like I HAVE to go to college to ‘be something.’) At the same time, I don’t want to go into debt/go to school forever.. I want to have kids before too long, really. So I can feel your pain there. I consider myself goal-oriented too, but I haven’t had that a-ha moment yet. I’m 24 as well. The best thing I can really tell you is to take everything one day at a time. I would continue to look for other opportunities in your area, you never know when or where you’ll find the right one for you!

Post # 4
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847 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

@siempresoulmates:  It’s called a quarter life crisis and is perfectly normal. 

Post # 5
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1583 posts
Bumble bee

@siempresoulmates:  You have plenty of time to start a family. Now is the time to build the foundation for said family. Work hard now so you can enjoy the family you’ll have in the future!

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I could have written this myself! I’m also 24, went travelling (but backpacking with SO), getting married in June and have a reliable, well paid job. BUT I want a career that I love, and that will help me to feel like I’m making a difference, rather than just drifting through until my fictional children are at school! I think I would like to be a counsellor, but am not sure. It’s tough deciding what to do sometimes, but aren’t we lucky to have this as our biggest problem?

 

i think we’ll start trying for children after we’re married (I also want babies soon!) and i might try and d a part time degree too, so that i have a goal and will be on thgorging track to doing something I enjoy! What’s your game plan?

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

@siempresoulmates:  No trust me, that’s just your angst talking. Everybody is lost is their twenties, it’s just diffrent for you because you got married and you can’t be selfish. 

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

You sound very very very much like me. My problem was I had a child when I was twenty years old so there was no travelling the world and volunteering for me. I had a very stable, well paying job for several years and I HATED it. But I kept going simply because I needed the funds, being a single mom and all.

So now I live together with my SO, we bought a house that’s big enough for us but it’s nog huge, so we could be flexible about our incomes. And I changed jobs soon after :-). I now work at a bridal store, a job which I really love. I get paid less, it doesn’t match my degree at all (I have a Bachelor of Administration something, don’t know the exact term in english). But it does make me happy and I actually enjoy going to work.

I always felt a need to ‘change the world’, help others, do something of significance. I had to come to terms with the fact that I already have to juggle family-life, social-life, maintaining our house, keeping up with going to the gym etc and a job and that’s hard enough. So I probably won’t be doing anything important anytime soon. Being a mom did give me the feeling I’m doing something a little bit important and helped me accept that I will not be the one to bring peace to the world.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I currently teach English in a public school in South Korea. I make money, I help kids, I travel, life is pretty awesome… just saying it might be something you could be interested in based on your descriptions of what interests you. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@siempresoulmates:  You seriously sound like you could be my twin, Lol! I, too, have fought with myself over the idea of going back to school.. I was planning on going to get my bachelors in Psych, but have found out that I really can’t do much with it. And currently, we’d have to take out loans for me to go. So I’d go into debt for a degree that I may not be able to use. I know a lot of people with bachelors, even master’s degrees that are struggling to find ANY job, let alone a job in their field. So it’s a slippery slope. Are you still interested in photography? Maybe you could try shooting weddings/events? Are you crafty? Maybe you could get involved in some charity/volunteer events and link up with people from there. Sometimes you can make connections there that will end up landing you a job!

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Most 24 year olds I knew when I was that age (i’m 29) felt that way, actually.

I think maybe you need to move to a more interesting town – that might engage you more, and make you feel like you aren’t trapped in one small place. I’m assuming from the average wages you listed that it must be a very small town/city? I live in the Bay Area, and on any given day, there are 80 gazillion things going on, plus food from every culture imaginable.

I have spent most of my 20s traveling the world for my research, so I definitely understand the restlessness that happens once you’re settled again!

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