Post # 1
Hello my fellow pregnant bees! I’m almost 14 weeks into my pregnancy and since I’ve passed the first trimester “worry” stage I’ve been thinking a lot more about my delivery etc. A friend at work highly recommended a midwife service she used with her 2 previous pregnancies and is now using with baby number 3. She made it sound absolutely amazing, very individualized care, someone whose with you the entire labour instead of a doctor popping in and out and the 6 weeks of support post baby sounds really incredible. Plus you can still deliver at my local hospital as this midwife service has privledges there, which would mean still having access to doctors/nurses and medications etc. in the hospital setting should something go wrong with the delivery. Also I want an epidural so being able to deliver in the hospital rather than the home birth option was a must for me!
However, I know most people in my area tend to go the route of using an OB which makes me wonder if there is something I am missing or failing to consider with the midwife option. I was wondering which route you ladies are taking and what factors you considered in making your decision? Also, mama bees who’ve used midwives how did you find the experience?
Post # 2
I’m 13.5w, FTM and going with a hospital midwife. I just like their model of care better – more holistic and natural but still can do interventions if needed
Post # 3
I would highly suggest scheduling appointments with both and seeing who you feel more comfortable with. There are benefits to both.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Right now we’re deciding between a midwife in a birth center and a midwife in a hospital. i think I’m going to win and get my midwife in a birth center. You could not pay me to use an OB again if I have an option for a midwife.
Post # 5
When the time comes….
I want a Midwife & home birth
He wanted me to go OB and hospital…
So we settled on Midwife and hospital (most likely) unless I can get my way later 😉 If the pregnancy is very smooth and healthy and the midwife has no concerns. The hospital is like a 5 min ambulance ride away if anything…
Post # 6
I just like the Midwifery model of care better. And being a nurse… I want to deal with doctors the less the better. Ugh.
I am also dead set on a as natural birth as possible… no epidurals. Being at home would guarantee that I wouldn’t cave and ask for one. Being in the hospital, would be harder not getting it knowing it’s right there….
Post # 7
FutureMrs.Cammack: I went birth center with midwives. The only option there was unmedicated. I loved the midwives and care I got there, as well as the relaxing atmosphere at the birth center. I was in the bathtub for a lot of my labor, which was awesome. If you want an epidural you’ll need to be in a hospital since an anesthesiologist administers it, and once on it you’ll need more monitoring (I think). Congrats to you!
Post # 8
I had an OBGYN with both my babies. Frankly, I don’t need anyone there with me the WHOLE time- it’s just fine with me to have the dr pop in and out. There is so much of labor that is just waiting around for things to happen- and I had relatively short labors- 9hrs and 6.5hrs. Plus, I like my epidural- so hospital for me!
Post # 9
I chose an OB. I didn’t even consider a midwife, let alone giving birth anywhere else than in a hospital because I believe that a specialised doctor is able to provide me better care than a midwife. I also don’t want someone to be there all the time and it’s enough for me to know that the midwives keep the doctor updated all the time (at least that’s the way it works here). My cousin just recently had a baby and she had a perfect pregnancy and everything seemed to be going well until things suddenly really went downhill, ultimately leading to the baby suffering from brain damage caused by lack of oxygen. As birth is unpredictable, I don’t want to take any risks and I’d rather medical interventions to avoid adverse outcomes even if there was a good chance that everything would be ok.
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2011 - Boy #1 12/2015, boy #2 02/2018
I am going with a midwife and delivering at hospital. Similar to what knpswp: said. I am almost 19 weeks.
Post # 11
I have both lol. I’m 16 weeks after a lot of IVF and because of that have somewhat of a team. If everything goes well, my nurse midwife, who was also my acupuncturist for over a year through IVF, will deliver baby at the hospital. She’s wonderful, we adore her and she’s trained nearly every doctor in the area on how to deliver babies. If there are some issues, I have an OB who can step in and take care of delivery. If there are serious issues, especially those that present early, I have a high risk OB that I haven’t met yet but who is “on the team” because of the IVF. A plan for every scenario!
Post # 12
I’m really not trying to tell you what to do but please really consider giving birth at the hospital. One of my cousins did an at home birth and now her four kids are without their mother. I had an OB/GYN and liked that there wasn’t someone constantly in the room. The nurses did most of the work and they were amazing!!
Post # 13
Nurse-midwife in the hospital, unless I need a c-section (which is a significant chance for me due to a fibroid at the base of my uterus), in which case I’ll obviously have an OB.
I’m lucky to live near a hospital that has one of the best midwife practices in the country. You see one midwife for all your prenatal care, then get whoever’s on call when you deliver. We went to a “meet the midwives” night at the hospital last week, and they inspired total confidence in me. There honestly wasn’t one of them that made me think, “Gee, I hope we don’t get HER.”
And they stressed that having midwife care doesn’t mean not getting interventions if you want them. You can plan to have an epidural and still have midwife care. Their priority is to support YOU, the mother, in the kind of birth you want to have, and to help you make decisions as surprises pop up (as they always seem to do in labor and delivery). I like knowing that they would never make me feel bad for needing a c-section, but they also would support me in exploring the options for a vaginal birth if possible. As one of them said in response to a question from a patient, “There’s no such thing as a ‘non-natural’ childbirth. All birth is natural.” (Then another quipped, “I don’t know; have you seen Alien?” which made me like them even more.)
Post # 14
FutureMrs.Cammack: I started out with an OB while I was on a wait-list for midwifery care (very high demand in Alberta) and then I found a midwife who was still accepting clients at the beginning of my second trimester. I know that doctors are different (as are midwives), but the care I received from my midwife was FAR superior to the care I was receiving from my OB.
The midwife really took care to address all aspects of the pregnancy and childcare, including mental and emotional health. She did home visits for a few weeks pp, which was amazing after a c-section and limited mobility. And nothing was ever rushed- she paid extremely close attention to everything, and even noticed something slightly abnormal in my bloodwork results that the doctors didn’t even catch.
She noticed right away when I started measuring a bit small for gestation around my due date and sent me to get an ultrasound, which revealed placental insufficiency, which led to an induction at the hospital and eventually to an emergency c-section after several hours of labour.
We had hoped to have an all natural birth at a birth centre, but things turned out otherwise, which is totally fine as Dear Daughter and myself came out of it happy, healthy and successfully breastfeeding 🙂
So, I am a total advocate of midwifery care. It is empowering, holistic, but is in no way lacking medical focus. DID I MENTION HOME VISITS!? lol
Post # 15
I have an OB, simply because he’s been my GYN for years and I absolutely love him. I didn’t feel like researching for a different provider when I got pregnant.