- 12 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
My friend, we’ll call her “C” got married about 5 years ago. She lives in NY, I live in NE Ohio.
Her wedding shower was in Columbus – not a lot of travel, but I bought her a 75 dollar shower gift.
Her bachelorette party was in Vegas – trip, hotel, meals & bachelorette gifts totaled almost 700 dollars.
Her wedding was in NY & I was singing in her wedding – So I was there for three nights (hotel) plus a gift – probably another 600 by the time I bought a dress, shoes, hotel, food, etc.
I had no problem doing this, because she was a good friend. I was sort of broke at the time, but I was going to do it for her.
Fast forward 5 years. I am getting married. She now lives in Maine, just outside Boston (about a 13-14 hour drive). She couldn’t make it to my shower, which I understand. But she wrote me an email yesterday saying that they just couldn’t find the cash to make it to our wedding. WHAT!
I could understand her responding that way if one of them were unemployed, or if they had fallen on hard times… while they have reduced salaires (as I have too), I’m floored that she wouldnt consider all I did for her and her wedding. She has known about this wedding and the date for WELL over a year, and I sort of feel like this is a huge cop-out.
Now I’m wondering if it’s worth remaining friends with this girl. She did not send me a gift for my shower w/ the decline, and I’m not sure if she is going to send a wedding gift either & I went out of my way for her!
I’m just upset that someone I consider a friend would pull this at the last minute! Up until now she had been saying how excited she was about it… I’m upset…