(Closed) Might as well go back to waiting … vent

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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1318 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@MsTireSmoke:  I’m sorry that your Fiance is frustrating you. I can definitely understand and would totally be kicking his ass out the door everyday to go find something. Hopefully he gets a fire under his butt soon!

Post # 4
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427 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MsTireSmoke:  Wow. That is so frustrating. 7 months. I can only share what I did when my SO was like this. He went through a similar period where his Dad was giving him an allowance to go to Uni (sorry I’m an Aussie :D) but he wasn’t actually at uni and he had no job. So he would just sit at home all day doing nothing, with just enough money to buy himself food and go to the gym. He did this for between 6 months to a year, i’m not sure anymore. But I left him to it, I didn’t nag him (too much) and I even stood up for him when his Dad made fun of him because I was working full time and he had no job (his Dad thinks he should be providing for me and I shouldn’t work… what??). Eventually, he went to uni, got a part time job, decided uni was wrong for him and is now doing a full time, physically exhausting apprenticeship. Just the other day he mentioned he can’t believe he sat on his ass for so long and I should’ve kicked his butt. But he also appreciated that I always love / trust him. Then again, this is different as we were young and only just living together and 100% then and now, our money is our individual money. I worked full time so I got anything I wanted for myself and he didn’t, so he got groceries and that was it. If we went out and I paid, he “owed” me that money, I think once he started working full time he had just under $1000 owing to me. Sorry, I realise this is long and I’m not sure if it helps, but if I could have a do-over, I’d definitely kick his butt and we could be 6 months ahead of where we are now! 🙂

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