Post # 1
Needing some advice here. I am a migraine sufferer and one of my most reliable triggers is perfume/cologne. Preventative drugs don’t work on me, and the drugs that I take when I do get a migraine make me feel like I’ve been run over by a truck.
Knowing that people tend to like to wear fragrance especially for special events, how can I go about preventing a migraine on my wedding? I am starting to work on a wedding website- would it be a major faux pas to put a little note on there to ask people to not wear fragrance? It just seems like such a personal thing.
Post # 3
By all means add it to your website. Most people don’t deliberately do things they know will cause a problem for other people. They just need to know what that might be.
Tell them the bride is “scent-sitive” to perfumes and would appreciate no fragrance being worn.
Post # 4
I think it is perfectly acceptable to put that on your wedding website, and make sure to ask your family/friends to spread the word as well. Depending on how sensitive you are/if it would wipe you out on your big day, maybe your officiant or DJ (or both) can make a quick announcement that you are scent sensitive, and to blow you a kiss or throw up a peace sign, or other things that the bees have suggested to avoid hugs.
Post # 5
I suffer from migraines as well, just the word gets me nervous. I wouldn’t care how rude it is to say it, you have to tell people and make sure especially the old ladies get the memo! You don’t need to be puking and laying still wanting to die on your wedding day. We both know these aren’t an hour long headache, it’s a day and then the hangover day. Stress brings mine on sometimes so I’m hoping I can stay calm (YIKES) my day.
Post # 6
I love the “scent-sitive” suggestion, what a great idea. Not too frank, but gets the point across nicely.
Post # 7
Definitely not rude to put a nicely worded message on your site and to make sure all your family members know so that they can bring it up/ say something if the opportunity arises in conversation with future guests. I hope everything goes smoothly!
Post # 8
I’d be as clear as you possibly can without coming across as rude. I have a coworker who’s extremely sensitive to smells, and she frequently suffers from people just not taking her seriously and wearing scents anyway. Make sure people get the message – if I were you, I’d go so far as to mention the migraines specifically, to help prevent people from thinking you’re just picky about what smells you like. You could describe it as a severe allergy or something, that usually gets people’s attention.
Post # 9
Thank you so much, ladies! I went ahead and put a note up on my wedding website, under the “Dress Code” section. Honestly, I probably wouldn’t even have created a section for Dress Code but I thought that it would be a good place to mention the migraine/perfume situation.
Have a great day!
Post # 10
I swear I’ve seen that before on wedding invites about going frangrance-free – I don’t even remember why, but it didn’t seem rude to me!
Post # 11
I know that you’ve already posted your memo on your website, which I think is a great idea, but I think you should still have a “Plan B” just in case. I know a ton of my guests didn’t bother to look at the website, and I also know from reading “Agony Aunts'” columns that even some people who do see the note will ignore it. I really hope you don’t have to go through any of it on your wedding day though! Best luck!
Post # 12
That’s a great idea…I’m a long time migraine sufferer also, and I actually did start to get a migraine at my wedding. I think it was all of the flash photography, because during the cake cutting, the light spots were so bad that I couldn’t see what I was doing. I whispered that to my husband and he totally guided my hand as we were cutting the cake. Immediately after, I had one of my bridesmaids get me the migraine meds out of the bridal suite, and my hubby and I went into a room alone together so that I could sit down and drink water…people were trying to snap photos of us because they thought that we having a sweet newly married husband and wife moment, but I was just waiting and hoping that the meds would work. The headache went away after 20 minutes, and I did get a nice break away from everything for a bit, so it all worked out – thank god!!